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Workshop - Roswell, NM – 1975 - Part 3 of 4

Roswell ’75 – CD 3 of 4

We’re going to talk a bit about things that we could practice that would eliminate all the distresses and et cetera that people do.  So we’ll continue in that area this afternoon, and in a little while we will stop makin’ talks.  We’ll all sit down and have discussions.  Most everybody has a question they would like to have particularly, and I’ll get off the high chair and sit down on the same level of everybody else and we’ll just talk about it.  In other words, if you got somethin’ to talk about, you might as well talk about it here as anywheres else.  You’re amongst the best of friends you’ll ever have, so couldn’t do much better than that. 

One of the things that always keeps a not-I active is wanting to know what to do.  When you try to use the brain as a fortune teller, you’re only contacting “A” and “B.”  Now, quite often somebody says, “Well, I want X to tell me what to do.”  X never tells anybody what to do.  But it’ll do anything you say is true and of first value; but it’ll never tell you anything to do, period.  And if you say, “What should I do?”, “A” and “B” will both answer you, right quick!  And they will give you two opposing ideas and then you’ll have to go ask somebody else what you should do.  And, of course, “A” and “B” in them gives you two more, so by that time you get very confused and then you can go ask another one or two and by that time, you’re in utter confusion.  So X is never going to give us any advice.  It’s never gonna tell us what to do; but it so loves us that it will do anything you say is true and of first value.  But people never got that in their head because for years back they have heard that they could ask and receive.  But they forgot to see that you had to ask right by practicin’ somethin’, then you’d have it.  But you will not get advice from X.  It is too much of a gentleman or a lady or whatever it may be…an it… to give advice.  You see, anybody who really has your best interest in heart will never give you advice.  They just won’t do that.  But, of course, the people who roll by “A” and “B” will constantly tell you what to do, and what you should do, and what you ought to do and et cetera.  But “A” and “B,” they give advice all the time.  Now, “A” is always tryin’ to convert “B” into bein’  “A.”  And “B” is trying to convert “A” into being “B.”  And that’s the biggest noise you hear; but they’re always givin’ advice to you.

So we’re gonna talk a little bit about the kind of questions that we can ask.  Now, frequently a person says, “Why did this happen?”  “A” and “B” will answer you.  They will give you two separate reasons and get you all confused over that.  We often ask, “What should I do?”  And “A” and “B” will answer that one.  So you can use fancy words and then we can worry over those for ages.  Now, we’re gonna take some questions that possibly, or shall we say a valid question.  [He begins writing on the blackboard.]  What Am I?  Where Am I?  What’s Goin’ on Here?  Now, this is all keeping it in the present you’ll notice, and not out in the future.  What’s Goin’ On Here?  What Can I Do?  Here.  Now.  And we might continue some others similar to those.  So let’s see if we can practice livin’ by these questions a little bit.  We’ll put the questions and then we’ll practice livin’ ‘em a bit.  So I will try to answer the questions as I have practiced it for a number of years, and I find it works very delightfully.  I’ll answer ‘em.  Now, I don’t say that’s all it is or even that it’s correct, but it sure does work well.  Now, you can experiment with it and practice it if you like or you can ignore it. 

What Am I?  I’m a privileged, invited guest.  If you look around, you really didn’t make too big an effort to get here that you recall of, is that right?  You were here.  And when you got here, you found a world well equipped.  It had highways, automobiles, had all kinds of orchards and farms, and buildin’s and cities, and manufacturin’ establishments, so you’d have everything that you could require when you got here.  Is that right, dear?  It all was here.  So Where Am I?  I’m at a beautiful party on the planet Earth, a big estate called “Earth.”  And I’m a privileged, invited guest at a beautiful estate called “The Earth.”  It’s pretty, isn’t it?  I think it so when go around and look at it.  It’s a very beautiful estate. 

And What’s Goin’ On Here?  They’re havin’ a lot of games – like all parties, there’s a lot of games goin’ on.  You can call ‘em “business games.”  You can call ‘em
“professional games.”  You can call ‘em “interpersonal games.”  You can call it “marriage game.”  You can call it “healing art game.”  You can call it whatever you like; but there’s all kinds of games goin’ on.  And there’s all kinds of guests got invited to this big party and it seems that Life is the Host, and that Life must find all these guests interesting or It wouldn’t keep ‘em around.  Did you ever think of that?  Now, the Host did not ask me to check out His guest list, so I have no fault to find with any of the other guests.  I’m just thankful He invited me.  And I don’t feel that I earned it in any way, but it must have been interesting in some way or other to see what kind of commotions I was going through so he invited me to the party, hmm?  And so I’m a privileged, invited guest at this beautiful estate called “Earth” and there’s a lot of games goin’ on, a lot of other guests here. 

And so it looks to me…What Can I Do?  I can be my idea of a good guest.  In other words, I can be kind and considerate to all the other guests.  I can do my best not to mess up the place where the party’s being held.  And I can enter into whatever games I want to, and stay out of the ones I don’t wanna play.  I don’t wanna play some of the games I see bein’ played, or at this moment I don’t.  I’m not interested in ‘em so I don’t play those games.  And if I do play a game, I’m gonna play it to the very best of my ability.  If it’s one where there’s competition in it, I’m gonna be a worthy opponent.  I wouldn’t want to play chess or checkers or cards with somebody who was deliberately lettin’ me win.  I want ‘em to be givin’ it all they got so I know whether I can do any good in the game or not. 

So when we choose to practice “Being a Good Guest,” and we are choosing to see this Earth as a big estate, we see Life as the Host and that I’m a privileged, invited guest and that everybody else is a privileged, invited guest, I can begin to observe what a good guest does at a big party.  There’s some of the guests that I particularly like to sit down and visit with.  There’s some of ‘em that I just as soon not visit with, so I don’t bother them very much.  But I don’t find any fault with those I don’t.  It’s just a matter of taste that I don’t particularly am interested in some of the games that the others are playing.  And I can keep on lookin’ at being a good guest.  I can understand that the other guests are there.  I don’t try to accumulate and put everything in my pocket.  Now, we are the guests of Miss Virginia today, and if some of us went back there and started gatherin’ up her pretty new candleholders and puttin’ ‘em in our pocket or takin’ ‘em to the door and puttin’ ‘em in a box, I imagine Virginia might, before we went out the door, say, “You can leave the candleholders on the table.”  And I’ve noticed that there is some people that, the guests at the party, try to accumulate everything they can get.  Now, I didn’t bring anything to the party, not one thing.  I just got here.  I didn’t even have clothes when I arrived.  I didn’t understand any language they were speaking or anything.  And I found a world well equipped with everything I could use, and it’s all here to use ever’ day.  But I don’t see any use to try to accumulate.  Because I notice ever one of ‘em leaves, left everything they accumulated at the party.  Did you ever notice that?  They don’t take nothin’ with ‘em.  Now, it’s here to use and I can enjoy the sunset just as much as if I had a title to it.  I can look out here at the mountains and I can enjoy those just as much.  I stayed in a room last night.  I enjoyed layin’ there and restin’ in that just as much as if I owned it.  I didn’t have to buy the joint or anything else; I just used it.

Now, so far the Host has provided me for every day I’ve been here (and it’s been quite a while I’ve been at the party now), He’s provided me with food, clothing, shelter, and transportation ever’ day since I’ve been at the party.  Has He you?  Every day.  Now, I don’t need to accumulate it because it’s all here to use today and I can use whatever’s available.  And any extra I don’t see any use in tryin’ to carry around; but I can always do that. 

Now, I’ve also observed that a good guest might make some contribution to the well-being of the party.  So every day I practice at making a little contribution to the enjoyment of the party.  Wherever the corner of the party I might be in today, I try to make some little contribution to the enjoyment of the party there.  Today I’m trying to make a little contribution to everybody here enjoying the party a little more; and maybe even recognizin’ that they are at a party and that there’s a very nice party.  Now, if I don’t understand where I am and what’s goin’ on, I’m liable to be findin’ fault with all the other guests, wonderin’ why they’re even here.  Maybe I might even want to wipe out a few of ‘em; and maybe I want to have the guests to all get with it and do what I think they ought to do.  Maybe I’m tryin’ to take everything they’re playing with away from ‘em and call it mine.  I want all the checker pieces and they’ll be mine now, or the chess pieces or whatever.  I might feel that the party was some kind of a competition and I was owed a livin’, and I had to get in there and dig for it or somebody’s goin’ to take it away from me.  So I can make a contribution to the party.  And it’s possible that if I’m intelligent enough and see it clear enough as to what’s goin’ on and make my little contribution at the party, maybe I could be a companion to the Host.  He must have found me interesting to invite me; and it’s possible I could be a companion to the Host.  But I would never get to be a companion to the Host by competitive, by fighting, by strugglin’, by findin’ fault with the other guests, hmm?  No way. 

But it seems that I practiced for a number of years being what to me is a good guest…now, I don’t know what a good guest is to anybody else – I figured it out for me.  I figure if I’m polite to the other guests, if I’m considerate of the other guests, I’m harmless to the other guests and to the estate and I practice making some little contribution to the well-being of all the party; in other words I make the contribution to the Host, not the other guests.  I want to do whatever I can that the Host’s party is goin’ off well and I consider that my contribution is to the Host.  It seems that there is some realization that there is a companionship with the Host. 

Now, I don’t feel this is a difficult one to practice.  It, to me, is very much like the one of practicin’, and you can do these two together, that only 25% of the little daily circumstances are gonna be just like I want.  And because 75% of ‘em have to take into consideration the other guests, so they won’t be like I want, so I can practice that and being a good guest at the same time.  And I feel that if you choose to practice that, it is very simple because there is so many reminders all around us that we are at a big party; that there is a lot of other guests here, that the other guests are maybe in varying degrees of understanding of what they are, where they are, what’s goin’ on and what they can do.  That’s immaterial.  And that I choose to make my contribution to the Host.  I’ve learned a few skills since I’ve been at the party.  I’ve learned how to relieve headaches, backaches, and bellyaches most of the time, and I do that now and then to relieve one of the other guests, but I do it for the Host.  I’ve learned how to cook a few meals and so I cook for the Host now and then.  I’ve learned a few things of how it’s goin’ on at the party and I can share those with other people, but I’m doin’ it for the Host.  And you find then you don’t feel that anyone owes you anything, or that you owe anybody anything ‘cause the Host has come along and provided me quite well; all I really need He’s had for me.  I haven’t tried to accumulate anything, but I have every day food, clothing, shelter, transportation, and all of its suitable to me.  I have no fuss about it one way or the other.  And it seems to me this is a very easy practice.  And at the same time, I can be practicin’ that all the other guests and all the circumstances at the party and the games being called, only 25% of ‘em’ll be exactly like I want and 75% of ‘em’ll have a little Second Force.  But I’m more than thankful to have some of the Second Force ‘cause I’m very thankful to be at the party.

Now, is it possible that that sounds far-fetched to anyone; that we are privileged, invited guests at a beautiful estate called “The Earth,” where Life is the Host and there’s a big party going on?  And at the party there’s lots of games and lots of guests, and I’m not obligated to do anything.  The Host invited me to the party, apparently like all people are invited to the party, to enjoy it; and I’ve enjoyed it immensely since I saw it was a party.  Before then I thought about it a lot – I didn’t think it was a party.  And if you practice being what to you is a good guest… now that puts you in kind of a little on being responsible to figure out yourself what’s being a good guest.  I don’t feel I would be a good guest if I came in your home and nosed into your personal affairs; I looked in your desk drawer or your medicine cabinet to see what all you did and didn’t do.  I think that would be uncouth.  And I, by the same token, try not to nose in the Host’s business of why did this happen and why did that happen and why did wars allowed and all these things.  Maybe wars is one of the games they play at this party – I don’t know, I see ‘em doin’ it pretty well.  But it’s none of my business.  I don’t like to nose in your private affairs and I wouldn’t nose, certainly, in the Host’s private affairs.  So I don’t ask “why” questions and that relieves an awful lot of anxiety right there, and a lot of confusion. 

And to me, being a good guest, of course, is being considerate or shall we say simple good manners to every one of the other guests.  I think that’s perfectly acceptable, isn’t it?  And if I’m a guest in your cabana that the Host has provided for you, I would try to not make a mess.  I wouldn’t leave everything topsy-turvy and I wouldn’t throw things around.  I would try to keep it lookin’ clean.  And if I went in the kitchen, I’d try to clean it up.  So I try to be reasonably clean in work I do, and clean as I go.  That kind of helps out with the state of pollution, to kind of clean as you go; you don’t leave that.  But it’s entirely up to each person as to their idea of being a good guest.  Certainly I like to make a contribution of whatever kind my little talents will go for.  And I think most everybody else wants to make some contribution.  You do, don’t you, Warren?  You want to contribute with whatever talent you have, huh?  And as long as I do that, I feel pretty nice.  Now, let’s ask are there any questions?  Does this sound far-fetched to you, that this is a fairly accurate description of what the real circumstance that we live in is?  Would it be hard to practice?  Jim, would it be hard to practice bein’ a good guest every day?

(I would think you gotta take a look at what it is first.)

What is what?

(Being a good guest to you.)

Well, what it is to you.  But I think I’ve seen you as being a guest in certain places and you’ve always behaved kind of gentlemanly, I think.  Course once you walked out on a ticket, but you did come back and pay it.  The only reason he walked out, I gave him money to buy his dinner because I didn’t want to eat that night.  He put the money in his pocket, and walked the check, so I guess that was bein’ a good guest that night, I don’t know.  I think he just got carried away, really.  He was makin’ movies, or somethin’, and forgot about it, but he did come back and get it later, didn’t you, Jim?

(Right.)

He just got carried away makin’ movies or somethin’.  Does that sound difficult to you, Miss Bonnie, to be a good guest? 

(No, it doesn’t.)

Seems like that would be reasonably easy to practice, along with at the same time of keeping the expectation in mind, that you only expect that all the other guests do exactly what you want ‘em to 25% of the time, huh? 

(I think that’s one of them.)  

I think that can be all one.  How about that, Miss Dianna, would that work together all right for you?  Could you practice that simultaneously without feelin’ you were split in many parts or anything?

(Once I get in my head the idea of doing things for the Host instead of for individuals.)

Right.  Now, I wouldn’t want to do nothin’ for any individual, ‘cause that would make them feel obligated.  And I’m sure not gonna make the Host feel obligated because He invited me to the party with no strings attached.  You know, He don’t care whether I’m one way or another.  I’m here and He invited me; and as long as I’m interesting to Him, I see I get to remain.  I noticed when apparently people cease to be interesting to the Host, they leave the party and they don’t get to take a dang thing with ‘em; they go out like they came in – nothin’.  And so it seems that if we can observe that everything we do is for the Host, never for an individual.  Now, I may relieve an individual’s headache, but that’s the Host’s guest and I’m doin’ it for the Host. 

(I had an experience like that in playing in a bar recently; and people started buyin’ me drinks and tryin’ to handle me and tellin’ me what to do; but I was doing it for the owner.)

You were doing it for the Host.

(Well.....)

The temporary host.  In another level, okay.

(Okay.  And as long as I could see that, I could put up with the other stuff for a while until she said to them, “Look-it, she’s a guest, too.  She’s not a hireling for you to do this to.”  So that may help me to make this transition.)

Okay, so it’s used over and over and over in many ways.  But when you look at if you went to someone’s home and they said, “Would you help cook for the people,” who are you cooking for? 

(I’m cookin’ for the Host.)

Right.

(You betcha.)

Okay now, if you are at someone’s home and the Host’s baby’s cryin’ and somebody said, “Would you help look after the baby?” are you doin’ it for the baby, or are you doin’ it for the Host? 

(They requested.)

For the Host.

(For the Host, okay.)

Okay.  So everything we do is for the Host.  I’m not doin’ nothin’ for individuals.  Now, for the Host I implied this, that if somebody asks me something, the Host is in effect saying, “Bob, you have a talent to handle this, will you take care of it.”  If I don’t have a talent to handle it, I don’t even hear the question, it goes right over my head.  See, ‘cause I don’t have the talent to do anything for the Host there, but wherever I have a talent to do something and I’m asked, I do it because I feel that’s the way the Host is askin’ me to look after it.  Or I’m volunteering to do it because I like to do things for the Host, ‘cause He’s been very gracious to invite me to the party; provided me with food, clothing, shelter, transportation, interesting things to do and interesting other guests around.  And I can’t think of anything more delightful, and I like to do something for the Host, whatever my little talents will handle.

(Now I can see, just maybe, somebody else’s experiencing this too, but I can see a feeling of, “Well, I was entitled to that and I would like people to feel obligated to me.”  I – maybe nobody else is that –)

Well, the not-I’s do that.

(Okay.)

The not-I says, “I want to be appreciated by the guests.”  No, I could care less what the guest feels about it.  I’m doin’ it for the Host, okay? 

(I’m goin’ to say that you can use that wisdom and understanding in here, too.)

Right.  It all fits together.  So we’ll say that we practice being a good guest.  That sounds simple enough to me.  Does that sound simple to you, Lee?  I’m bein’ a good guest wherever I am, right here or anywheres else.  Now, I would not think of doing anything here that I wouldn’t consider being a good guest because I am a guest and I’m always a guest.  But I also want to do something for the Host all the time, okay?  Make the party operate a little better.  It’s the Host’s party and I’m going to do every little bit I can to see that the party is a howling success. How’s that?  Hmm?  I’m not gonna nose into it or try to change the games, nor try to change the party nor go through the guest list and wonder what in the world they let Warren come for, you know.  The Host finds him interesting or he wouldn’t be here.  Even the Host finds Darryl interesting – I keep thinkin’ maybe he’ll get over it and send him home, but every year Darryl’s still here so the Host still finds him interesting.  (Laughter)  Whoever and wherever he goes, the Host finds him interesting.  As long as the Host finds him interesting, it’s all right in my book, okay?  The Host finds him a delight to have him here or He wouldn’t have him, ‘cause we haven’t seen any of us depart.  You know, the Host didn’t go, “Well, he is no longer interesting, send that guest home and invite some more.”  Notice that new guests are being invited all the time and they arrive and sometimes the Host says to somebody, “Will you look after these new guests ‘til they get acclimated to the party?”  So you can do that.  And every once in a while the Host says, “Look after this person or that person ‘cause they’re a little confused as to what’s going on at the party.”  So I try to sit down and get it straight what’s goin’ on and if they do see it, they always enjoy the party more. 

And it is such a delightful party, hmm?  But you have to choose how you’re gonna be a good guest – the Host is not gonna tell you.  He won’t tell you.  You gotta do it yourself.  In other words, the Host don’t care if you sit on a log and fish, or if you lean in the backyard and sit under a cactus, or you go out and build houses.  But whatever you’re doin’, do it for the Host.  And if you don’t want to do it, don’t do it at all, because if I’m gonna do anything for the Host, I’m gonna do it as the man says, “Whole hog and the postage, too.”  I’m gonna put everything I got into it.  And I don’t care where the chips fall, ‘cause I’m not going to get anything out of it, I’m doing it for the Host anyway.  And the Host has already more than amply provided for me, so I never have to wonder what I’m gonna get out of it ‘cause man, I’ve already got it.  I’ve been invited to the party and I’ve been looked after all these years; provided with food, clothing, shelter, transportation, interesting things to do, interesting games, and very delightful other guests around, and I don’t know how many more I could ask for.  Could you ask for any more than that, Darryl?

(No, I couldn’t.)

That’s everything, that’s heaven on wheels.  So what more could you want, you know?  You’ve had it all anyways.  So I don’t ever worry about what I’m gonna get paid, cause I want to make it as a contribution to the Host.  And the Host sees there’s plenty of contributions comes along to take care of Robert’s food, clothing, shelter and transportation.  Okay?  Let’s have a question, comments or somethin’ here.  That’s another way of practicin’ and never be bothered with a not-I.  John?

(You use the word ‘ask’ – and I suppose to ask is a good thing…sometimes like a person might ask us to do something for him, is the Host –)

I just consider that the Host is askin’, so I don’t ever consider that guy asking.  Does that help answer your question?

(Yeah, but there’s some other things where maybe there’s something isn’t asked needs to be done –)

Just go do it.  You’re doin’ it for the Host though.  Not because it ought to be done or should be done.  Because you make a little contribution to the Host, okay?  In other words, you’re drivin’ down the highway and saw a board stuck out in the road with four or five big nails in it, what would you do, John? 

(Stop and pick it up.)

Who’re you doing it for?

(Basically for the Host.)

I do it for the Host; clean up his road so that some of these other guests wouldn’t get a flat tire in a few minutes.  Now, I don’t expect any pats on the back or anything for it.  I just saw that I could sure make that little contribution to the Host.  So I consider that being asked.  If somebody said, “Would you do so-and-so?” I don’t see any reason why I wouldn’t do it because I consider that’s one way the Host asked me, is if you’ve got this talent, you can do it.  I can always say no, but I had rather not.

(That question’s not always worded with a question mark after it, though, is it?)

Oh no, not anything.  In other words a person may come and say, “I have a terrible headache, I’d give anything to get rid of it.”  I say, “You want me to get rid of it?”  Okay, I’m doin’ it for the Host, not the guest, okay?

(Whatever it is, if you see it – look, for instance, even if you ask a question, until I see it as a question, then that’s the determining thing there, isn’t it – my awareness?)

Right.

(Either I see it as a question and I’m doing it for the Host. Or I don’t see it as a question, or I see it as one that I cannot pick up or do much about –)

The Host is not gonna fuss at you if you don’t do it, okay?

(Okay.)

But it’s entirely up to you.  John?

(Sometimes people come to me and ask for help on something, but I really feel like I can’t help with that.)

Well, if anyone came and asked me to help with anything I probably wouldn’t.  I tell ‘em I wouldn’t help anybody because before I can help you, I got to look down on you, and I can’t look down on anybody ‘cause I walk with my feet on the ground.  Now, if you said you want me to work with you, we’ll get with it on that pretty soon, but I refuse to try to help people.  Somebody come ask, “Will you help me?”  I say, “No.”  Because I won’t look down on you.  You see, if I’m gonna help you, I must look down on you and say I can pull you part of the way up to my exalted  height, wouldn’t I, John?  So if somebody comes and asks me to help ‘em, I always say, “No, but I’ll work with you on it.”  Now, you can work with anybody on almost anything can’t you, John?  See “help” implies that you’re gonna do it up with utter perfection or ideally or whatever.  Where if you wanna work with ‘em – well, we work at it.  So if we both work diggin’ a ditch, why whatever on the ditch we got done, that’s it, isn’t it?  Does that help a little bit?  Somebody comes and says help…asks you to help ‘em, always tell ‘em you can’t because you refuse to look down on ‘em.  That will kind of help wake them up.  ‘Cause I wouldn’t look down on anybody and that’s the only way I could help you.  But I’ll sure work with you, John, on almost anything that I’m capable of doing.  I’m not capable, I might try to find you somebody that is, okay?  That’d come out about the same way, wouldn’t  it.  Okay?  Another question?  Comment?  Warren?  Can you practice bein’ a good guest, what to you is a good guest?  I’m not gonna set up and say this is a good guest or this is not.  That’s what is to you being a good guest, wherever you may be.  And that’s whatever cabana you’re being in, whether it’s one you call ‘my house’ or not.  Are you being a good guest there?  Remember you didn’t do anything very much to get that house anyway. 

(Could you comment more on hearing what the Host has to say?)

The Host has very little to say as I’ve noticed, Darryl.  He doesn’t ever give me advice or anything else and so I assume, for the sake of my own assuming, that if you were to ask me to work with you on some program, whatever might be you’re interested in that day, I say, “Well the Host said to work with Darryl for a while, so I said I’ll work with you.”  I assume the Host is askin’ in that way.  In other words, I wouldn’t be interfering if somebody asked me to do it.  And that’s the only way I’m goin’ to do something ‘cause I don’t go around trying to save the world.  And I wouldn’t say why you better listen to me, and et cetera, which would be advice.  If you ask me to work with you on a program, then we’ll put something together.  I say, “Well, I’m doin’ that for the Host.”  And one of his guests has got somethin’ rattlin’ around here.  And the Host said, “Would you work with Darryl a little while on this?”  That’s the way I would look at it, okay?  It’s strictly the way I choose to see it.  You know nothin’ really is except the way we choose to see it anyway, and that’s the way I choose to see it, okay?  So like you said, “Would you work with me on somethin’ one day?”  And I said, “Sure.”  But I’m doin’ it for the Host, not you.

(As a guest, if I were to ask you to give me a lot of money or to indulge me –)

Well, I’d never do that cause that would be contributin’ to your delinquency, and I would never contribute to any of the Host’s delinquents.  Now, if you ask me for $10, that’s different; but you ask me for a lot of money, forget it!  See?  In other words, there is one thing to work with people and another one to be helpful.  We just saw that.  I’d be helping you if I give you a lot of money.  I would be the one that got the good feeling out of it.  “Look how important I am.  I had the money to give to Darryl.”  And if he asked me for a lot of money, I will want to know a few things – like how come you wanted it in the first place.  And the next thing we’d probably see is how you could play games and get it without goin’ out …I wouldn’t just kick you off, but neither would I contribute to your delinquency.  I feel that that is not being a good guest.  If I went around to a party you were havin’ and I took a few bottles of beer to all the 12-year-old kids, I don’t think it’s considerate – to me that wouldn’t be being a good guest, you see?  Because I’d be contributin’ to their delinquency and they’re not quite capable of handlin’ that stuff yet.  Just like you wouldn’t be capable of handlin’ a great sum of money, because if you did, you’d already have it.  The reason you don’t have it, is you’re not capable of handlin’ it.  So it’d be just like givin’ booze to a 12-year-old kid at a party.  You wouldn’t do a thing like that, would you? 

(No.)

No.  I would probably give it to the adults if they wanted it or anything like that, but not to the little kids.  And I would consider goin’ givin’ anybody a lot of money would be about the same way, ‘cause I’ve seen that happen a few times and I’ve seen what chaos it brought about; absolutely worse than givin’ the kids booze.  So I just consider that the Host didn’t ask me that; one of the uninformed guests asked me that, and I wouldn’t say yes to the guest.  You know, you can be reasonably…bein’ a good guest I think’s bein’ a considerate person, which I would consider each thing on its own merits.  If your wife was sick or your kids were sick and you needed $1,800 for some kind of procedures that they had to have, you’d probably get it; but if you wanted $1,800 to go to Las Vegas now, you probably wouldn’t get it – but you’d still consider it.  That’s what being considerate is, do you see?  I said I thought being a good guest included being considerate of each circumstance on the merits of their own circumstance.  And I don’t know that I would always be a good guest to everybody else’s viewpoint at all, but I am to me.  And that’s the only one I got to live with, you see?  In the last analysis I’m the only guy I have to live with.  I’m here in the room with everybody else, but I’m the only guy I really have to live with, okay?  And I feel that to be considerate is a worthwhile thing – that’s one part of being a good guest to me.  To be considerate, to be harmless and to make some contribution to the everyday affairs, okay?  Of the Host.  Keep the party rollin’ on and bein’ a joke.  Any more questions?  Comments?  Okay, we’ll take about a 10-minute break and we’ll start at a quarter after, okay?     [End of CD #3 of 4 – Roswell ’75]

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