Workshop - Way Of Power - Part 1 - Daytona Beach Fl. - Workshop April-84
I came down and brought me a pretty jacket, but I considered it the better part of valor this morning to leave it where it was. Jacket felt awful warm, so I don’t think anybody will object to me not looking grand and all that good stuff.
So basically we will talk today on the idea of integration. Integration meaning that we are "one being totally within." Totally--we’re one person. Now that maybe sounds a little strange to some people, but, long years of working with people has determined that there is a whole "bunch of people" lives in most of these bodies--and that at various times one or another takes over and runs the affairs of the person. So we’re going to talk at some length today about the possibility of being one. This can bring about a considerable transformation in the individual and their way of living--their whole viewpoint of life, the way they feel, the way they function and what they accomplish.
So now the things we will talk about are simple. I did not say they’re easy. Neither are they something one does overnight, but they’re something one starts living, and they do produce tremendous changes over reasonable period of time, if one uses it. Now to know about the information we will talk about has no earthly value unless you use it. You can have all the information stacked up in these books and you could put it on tapes and store the tapes away. You might even listen to them once in a while. But they wouldn’t do anything unless one starts living it. Now if you see one thing that we talk about today that you could say, "Well, I can use that, I’m going to do that one, just that one"—don’t worry about all the rest of it, just do that one and you’ll do fine because everything we work at, if you did one of it, you’d have it all anyway. So, don’t try to think that you got to do a whole lot of things. But if there’s one thing that you hear that you say I can use that in my everyday living, you will find that that one thing produces all the transformation that you can handle for quite a while.
Now basically we will talk with pictures. Now I’m not an artist, so I will just make diagrams of some sort or other. And the first one we will make is--we call the Picture of Man. And the Picture of Man tells how we’re kind of put together on the inside, and we will consider it for a while and we will put in one more little word of caution if I may. No matter what you find out "what’s going on" within yourself, you neither condemn it nor justify it. It just is. And know that if you find anything in yourself you are sure not alone. All the rest of us got the same thing. So, be sure that you don’t find that, "Well I’ve got to improve myself." We’re not talking about improving, we’re talking about being conscious--and being conscious in many ways that we haven’t been before will bring about a considerable transformation in our being.
So without further noise we will start up with a little picture. Now there’s a fundamental we’ll start off with that says
Once a decision—now we’re not talking about a choice here--we’re using the word decision kind of technically—it’s like a conclusion. So we will put conclusion in parentheses.
ONCE A DECISION IS MADE with feeling--WE’VE COME TO A CONCLUSION ABOUT SOMETHING--IT BECOMES THE RULE OF ATTITUDE/ACTION FROM THEN ON.
From the moment we come to that conclusion from now on until such time as we can look at it, be conscious of it and reevaluate it.
So most of the conclusions we have made we’re unaware of and so that’s called the unconscious area. Now man has a lot of things he lives by he’s not conscious of, he’s just simply reacts and does them. So we’re going to talk about taking charge of doing them rather than simply reacting and just let something happen.
Any of you been aggravated, annoyed, angry in the last week?
Did you really have charge of it and considerately say “I’m going to get ticked off and push these people around,” or did you find it suddenly occurred without your consent or will or anything else. Maybe afterwards in a day or so you thought, Why did I act that way." Did you ever do that? You know, a lot of people go around and feel guilty about that. But there’s no sense in feeling guilty about it because you can’t help it anyway--because you’ll do it again in a few days, is that right?
And has anybody here done any worrying lately?
You know, worrying straightens everything out. You know that don’t you? You worry about something long enough, why it makes you smooth up and do right, is that right? You worry a little bit now and then? Did you have charge of it or does it just take off on you?
[Sometimes I worry so much until I finally just put it aside and then…]
You decided you’ve had it.
[It gets uncomfortable.]
Yeah, it does get uncomfortable. But, until it gets horribly uncomfortable we just go do it. Is that right? So maybe we can take a little more charge.
So I’m going to draw a picture here. Start off with something that looks somewhat like a vee and this is any one of us. Now each of us has four aspects. Now we are a unit, with a lot of things in there that keeps it from being a unit. The first thing that we can see, the first aspect of man is a physical body. Now we can see those all around, we’re pretty well acquainted with those, we even recognize a few of them. You know, we see one, we say, hey, that’s so-and-so over there.
And next there is an "awareness function." Now I’m not going to use the term mind because it’s been so kicked around that you’d have a bunch of preconceived opinions about it, and it’s very hard to pass a preconceived opinion, So we’re not going to talk about mind. We say we have an "awareness function." We’re aware that we’re sitting in a room. We’re aware there’s other people around. Sometimes we’re aware we’re hungry, or that we would like to eat, either one, I don’t know, … more often that, … like to eat whether or not you’re hungry? I think most of us eat enough to keep from getting hungry. We’re aware that it’s, the temperature is pleasant to us, or we’re aware it’s unpleasant. We’re aware we’re tired, or we’re aware we’ve got a little pain somewhere or other. Or we’re aware that I’m bored. That’s a very common one. So there’s an "awareness function."
And then there is something that is alive. We refer to that as X. Now X is an algebraic symbol that says I know something exists, a certain value exists, but I don’t know what it is yet. Maybe we’ll figure it out sometime. Is that what it is? Two plus X equals nine and pretty soon I can figure out what the X is. It’s seven in that case, is that right? But, I have to find out what the X is.
Now we all know that we can tell the difference between something live and something dead. Fairly easy, isn’t it? We look at that plant and we say it’s alive. How do you know it is? We just know it. And it could be dead, we’d know that very quickly, is that right? And I can look at you and say "He’s alive." There, "She’s alive." Marsha’s alive, dog’s alive. Even though the dog is laying there with its little eyes closed, it’s a live dog, isn’t it? And we could tell very quickly if it was a dead dog.
Now what is it that makes the difference between a live plant and a dead plant? What is it in there? We don’t know. But it’s something called Life, is that right? You know what life is? I can’t define it and I’ve never run into to anybody that could. We can certainly tell whether it’s there or not, is that right? So we put an X there, that’s what it is. Now we’re talking about a little live body here, we’re not talking about a dead one, okay?
And there is always--as long as it’s alive--some function going on. Now we’re sleeping, we’re eating, we’re talking, we’re, complaining, we’re sticking up for our rights, we’re doing something at all times. You’re never just--you just can’t do nothing. Now frequently somebody calls up and says. "What are you doing." You say, "Nothing," but that’s not accurate because you’re breathing, circulating blood and you’re talking on the telephone and maybe feeling bored, all at the same time. That’s why you say you’re doing nothing.
So we have these four aspects. Now we’re going to try to discover step by step how this works. Now we can take this one that we have here and put an environment around it. Now all of us exist in an environment. And I feel I’m the center of my environment. Is that right? How about you? Are you the center of your environment? Are you the center of your environment?
Now two of us have exactly the same environment. We’re all in this room, but it’s not the same environment, because you’re in my environment and I’m in yours--that makes it very different. It makes it quite different. So we all have our own individual environment.
We, also, all see it slightly different than everybody else does. Have you ever been in a room when somebody said it was too hot and somebody else said it was too cold, and somebody else said it was drafty and the other one said it was stuffy in here? Ever done that? We all see things a little differently. So when we’re looking at it, we’re looking at it from my viewpoint only. When you see it, you’re seeing it from your viewpoint. What may be very nice to me may be obnoxious to you.
If we went out to dinner I’ll bet you anything we wouldn’t all order the same thing. I want this and you want that from over here.
I took a lady to dinner one time and I ordered steak. And she ordered steak too, but she said something about it being cooked a little different than mine and I noticed all the time I was eating she kept turning away and looking way over there somewhere. Finally I said, "Say, is something bothering you?" She said "Yeah, I can’t stand to look at that steak you’re eating. " I’ve branded critters that got up and run off that was hurt worse than that.
So you know, she didn’t like that rare meat, it’s supposed to be DONE. I like it kind of the other way around. So my environment is different.
So from the environment we receive an impression to awareness. We are aware of all sorts of impressions coming in to us at all times. Now we’re not aware of all of them. … We’re just aware of certain little impressions—we ignore a whole bunch of them. They’re all there, and they’re all being recorded by the body and by the brain and etc., but we’re totally paying no attention to those.
122 Are you aware you’re sitting on a hard chair or did you become aware when I brought it up?
If you sit there long enough it will become of prime importance.
It will get uncomfortable--but right now we’re not thinking of it, we’re thinking of something else.
So when we have some impression comes in from the environment, we also receive impressions from the physical body, which also brings in impressions from the environment. We have a feeling about it. Now first comes impression which is a bunch of things that we could call “sensing.” After we’ve "sensed" something--if we pay any attention to it--we have a feeling about it. The feeling may be nothing more than I like or I dislike. Is that right? You can have things you like and dislike. You meet people, some of them you like, some of them you don’t like, is that right? And a lot of them is just pffft! You don’t even bother to like or dislike some people. They’re just blobs went by out there. (laughter)
So we have this feeling. And the feeling always goes to X. Now this travels by nerves and so forth, so we won’t go into all the little technical things, but we all know about having a feeling about things, do you not? You have feelings about just about everything that comes in? You’re driving down the street and you see a house and you have a feeling you like sometimes, huh? See another house and you don’t like that one. And some houses we just don't notice.
Now this feeling goes to X. Now X is the Life principle, and X is interested in maintaining and enhancing its life form. It went to great pains to make it.
So X is Life and Life does the appropriate thing for the information it receives. If you’re making notes or something that might be worthwhile to do. X, to the best anybody can see, always does the appropriate thing for the information it receives. It receives all this information from the "awareness function"of man. The "awareness function is that aspect of man that receives all of its information from the environment. Then X always the appropriate thing for the information received. It already knows how to do that, from some way or other, it does the appropriate thing for the information it receives.
Now, we’ll try to give some little quickie illustration of that. Let’s say that you were walking around out here somewhere and there was a rattlesnake. The appropriate thing for you would be to have no contact with that rattler, in as much as rattlers and humans don’t seem to get along too well together, is that right? And you would try to get away from him, or destroy the snake
Now suppose that instead of a real rattler, the object was an imitation one, a mock one. It was made to look like a real rattler, but it was made out of rubber. It even had a little buzzer in it. What would you do then? You'd just look at it,
Would you still do the same thing for the rubber one as you would the real one? You'd do the appropriate thing for what you saw. Now after somebody showed you they were doing a practical joke, why you could pick the thing up and carry it around then. (laughter) Oh, you still wouldn’t touch the darn thing, would you! But some people would say, "Well, it’ll be all right to touch it now, it’s just a toy. It would be a toy if it was a make-believe one. So as long as you felt it was a real one, you would react with something to fight or run from that snake--get away from it. But if it was a make-believe snake; and you didn’t know the difference, you still saw it as being one, you’d still fight or run.
So X does the appropriate action for the information it receives, and it receives all this information from the "awareness function." So it is possibly rather worthwhile what we do. So when X does the appropriate thing it goes to the physical body, mobilizes energy to do the appropriate thing, and the action is carried out and we’re back to functioning all right. Back to semi-rest again, okay. And we have this as a cycle. So we could call this a living cycle.
So we perceive something here, we have a feeling about it, X mobilizes the energy to do the appropriate thing, and we carry out the action. Now if we functioned like this, we would be what’s called an "integrated person," and you wouldn’t have all the disintegrating things going on in your existence that you do. The body wouldn’t be falling apart at the high rate of speed that it does. You wouldn’t have all the tangles with other people that we have. You know, we could kind of get along with them, give them their way and I can have mine and there’s plenty of room for both of us in this world. I don’t have to straighten them out, they don’t have to straighten me out. But you know, basically, we have to do a lot of straightening out on those other people, is that right? And they sure do a lot of straightening out on me.
(Would you go through, there, with somebody getting angry at somebody else and what happens?)
Okay, we’ll say that you perceived that somebody was denying you your "rights." I don't'’ know what your "rights" are, whatever you dreamed they were. You really don't'’ have any, but let's'’ say that somebody took your parking place. Were you ever in a parking lot and you see somebody backing out and you’re going to go get in that spot but suddenly somebody beats you in there. Is that good enough illustration? Did you get ticked when they did that?
I got called some very dirty names last week… in a good Mormon city, too, Mesa. I really wasn’t trying to do that very thing. I was just driving down this line of cars and a car backed out and I pulled in. There was a lovely lady in a nice little car right over there that had been waiting for that parking space, and I didn’t see her. She was coming the other way, but she was going to make a u-ey and get in there--she had a little bitty car. She called me some rather unpleasant names, to say the least. So I said, "Well wait a minute, lady, don’t get yourself a case of ulcers over this little space here." "If you’ll wait a minutes, I'll pull out and give you this space." "I’ve never failed to find a parking place before, and I don’t think I will this time, so you can have this one."
So that didn’t please her either!
So I would say, Marsha, that first off you feel that somebody has denied you your rights, or has stepped on your toes. They didn’t do things the "RIGHT" way, "MY" way. Okay. That’s what the "right way" is, isn’t it, "my way." They didn’t do it that way. So I had a feeling of being "put upon." Which, when I feel I’m "put upon" I feel angry. Is that right? And when I feel angry I feel belligerent and want to commit violence on somebody--mostly words these days. So the appropriate action here would be to prepare the body to fight or run. But being in a fairly civilized community, we don’t fight or run, we just bitch and scream. I usually use the word gritch, it’s a combination of gripe AND. So you get all worked up over it, huh? And, but you don’t fight or run. So your body is in a state of chemical imbalance and neuromuscular tension. And you’re going to have to adapt. So you will have a headache, sore throat, bellyache, or something else in a few hours. And then of course you begin to worry how that headache happened because that’s uncomfortable and you go around this vicious cycle. But that’s the vicious cycle, we’ll get to that in a while. This is the living cycle. You have a true perception of what’s going on out there, you have a feeling that’s in agreement with it, you do the appropriate thing and you act upon it and that’s the finished product then, okay?
[True perception you wouldn’t get angry, you would see what the situation…]
Oh sure. What do you … get angry about? In the first place, having been around this world a while and looked at a lot of things, I haven’t seen anything that’s important yet, have you?
[All the things I make important.]
Right. Now we make a lot of things important, and those are the things we get upset about. Huh?
[If you’ve already made it important, is there a way…]
It’s about time you un-make it important and see that it’s not, because it isn’t.
[Is the only way you can do that is to do something different?]
Well, that would be about the only way is to see it like it truly is. It’s not important.
A young man came to visit me from out of the country last week. He came over in Arizona, and he was sad thay his beautiful love affair had just broken up three or four months ago. He was still wallowing in the pits of self-pity and you know how people do all of these things, hmm?
So you know all about that. (laughter)
This young man perceived that his world would come to an end. There was nothing worth living for, this young lady was long gone. His feeling was one of utterly being crushed. X did the appropriate thing, made him feel horrible and miserable and his action was self-pity and talking about suicide and all that good stuff. Now if he can see it's not important, can you--the whole thing's over with.
So this young man said to me, well Bob, I hope I can learn something from this experience, it’s been the most horrible thing in my life. I said well, there’s one thing to learn. If you can learn that, you've got it all.
And he said (what’s that?)
And I said you learn that no relationship is important.
And when you’ve learned that you might enjoy them, have a good time with them, and so forth, but they are NOT important. If you can learn that, you’ve learned all you can learn out of any relationship.
He said "You’re a mean old man!"
But that’s the fact, if you can learn it. There is NOTHING important about human relationships. They’re interesting, they’re delightful, I love them, but they’re not important. They come and go like butterflies, you know. Think how many men you’ve been in love, good Lord! (laughter) And each one was the ONE AND ONLY! Six months later, hell, you don’t even know the old… (laughter)
I’ve had them tell me, "Man, this is a total no-matter-what I’ll love him forever." Another young guy comes down the street, brrrp! Forgot all about it. So there’s one thing to learn in all these horrible traumatic break-up love affairs, there’s one thing to learn of great value--they’re not important, okay? Now we’ll proceed from there. You got that question out? Now does that help you go around this question.
This is the picture as we can be or the way we were designed to be, but not the way we are, okay? Now, I’m going to start in a minute and we’re going to talk about how we really are. We’re going to complete this picture a little bit. This is the way you were designed to exist, and if you did you would probably function quite well for a long long time. We read in certain books yhat people used to kick around nine hundred, eight hundred years, and the books say that they begat sons and daughters all this time, so in the olden days they must have been having a ball--they kept on having kids. So it’s possible that they were describing somebody before they were all screwed up in here.
Now we’re going to talk about the screwed up, okay? Now, is there any question about how we’re put together? This is your anatomy of a human being that isn’t all conditioned, and it’s a case where most of us can be if we so choose to be one of these fine days. Now, we’ve never been that way more than a few minutes. Probably the day we were born. So I will erase all this and I will draw the picture again and we will kind of go through it step by step how it got crossed up.
So we’ll put our same little drawing here, we’ll put our picture on it, and this is the physical body down here, this is the awareness fucntion and this one’s X and that is the function out here.
Remember we said this morning that when we come to a conclusion or a decision with feeling, that that becomes the rule of attitude/action from then on. The first conclusion that most of us made was in the process of being born. We’d been floating around here in a literal Garden of Eden where we didn’t even have to bother to breathe, we didn’t have to go out and eat, we didn’t have to do anything except kick once in a while. We just floated around in a body of water. But then one day we start being born. And being born is a little unpleasant, if you care to look at it--it’s pushed and pounded. Mama thinks she’s having trouble; but you ought to be the kid. I remember that. The kid’s really getting a beating.
The kid feels suffocated and all sorts of other things, which is why people dread dying because they kind of equate it with being born--you do have a vague memory of it. And with proper techniques you can remember it quite clearly. Not that it’s any great value to you to recall it clearly, but I’ll have to say it's just kind of a messy situation.
So in being born the child decides that his whole purpose is to regain that nondisturbed state. Here he was just floating around, … and now then you’re born, you have to breathe, you’re suffocating and you have to eat. People are poking needles in you and pouring stuff in your eyeballs and putting tight clothes on you and you got to do everything now. No longer can you, are you totally taken care of.
So. We start wanting to regain that non-disturbed state. You ever been real uncomfortable? You then wanted to regain the comfortable state, didn’t you?
Right. And you go to quite lengths to do it. Is that right? [Right.] So the first decision, the one that stays with us all of our lives is to regain the non-disturbed state. It's the one that we want to look at, and we’re not going to try to change it, we just simply want to be aware that this is what we’re doing… I’ll just label it out here: The whole purpose of living (writes on board.
And once we’ve been born, there’s about only one way we can get it. (writes on board, probably “death” or “dead”) It usually takes most of us around sixty, seventy years to achieve that one. Sometimes eighty or ninety years. Being unborn or dead seems to be a similar situation. Either way you’re here in unborn or dead--non-disturbed. You have nothing to be disturbed with. So that's to be unborn or dead.
Now over here's the one that says that the whole purpose of living is to be non-disturbed. Now if we stop and look, aren’t you spending about your whole day trying to be non-disturbed? Huh? That right? All day long, every day, and a lot of times all night long, we’re working away at being non-disturbed. Now there’s nothing wrong with that. We’re not trying to talk about trying to change it, but we want it to be conscious.
Now if I’m going to spend a lot of effort on something, I want to at least know what I’m working on. I’ll probably will figure it out a little easier. Now I’m willing to spend a certain amount of effort and time and so forth to be as comfortable as possible, but I’m not going to pay for it with my life.
So the whole purpose of living is to be non-disturbed. Now that’s fine and we will take that, and I’m going to be conscious a lot of the time that that’s what I’m working on--not just react to it. Now if I want to be non-disturbed, I want to work at it carefully, I’m not going to just react and run willy-nilly into all sorts of things. You know, I’ve seen people destroy themselves trying to be non-disturbed. I’ve seen people drink as high as a whole gallon of alcohol in a day trying to be non-disturbed. I’ve seen people take a gob of heroin along with several other good chemicals into the system, and there’s only one thing they’re trying to do is be non-disturbed. Now when you get hooked on one of those you’ve really got a disturbance going. You really got a king-sized disturbance then.
So I’ve notice most effort to be non-disturbed results in an intense amount of disturbance. Check that one out. Don’t take my word for it, check it out.
Every time I’m trying to be totally non-disturbed I’m creating a tremendous amount of disturbance. You ever tried to be non-disturbed pretty heavy? Did it create a lot of disturbance? More than you could almost hack, wasn’t it? About right? We all been along that road. So let’s kind of be conscious now.
Look I want to be non-disturbed but only, I’m willing to pay only x number of time effort and dollars for it. Okay?
I’ll pay a little bit but I’m not going to pay very much for it. And there’s no way you’re going to get total non-disturbance, I’ve got news for you on that one. You maybe get a lessening of disturbance; but as long as you live in this world--and I kind of like it here. I’m better acquainted here than anywhere I can think of—there’s going to be a little disturbance. You’re going to have some ups and downs. There’s always a little bit of disturbance.
I like challenges and so forth, and by the way, I guarantee you I have plenty. I’ve never been without more than adequate enough to keep me interested, to say the least, okay?
So the first way that the infant decides to achieve this non-disturbed state—now that we’ve found out what his purpose is--now we’ve got to have methods to get it, right? First one is, which everyone that’s been around a baby well knows, "it’s important to have my way now. It’s important to have my way now, and the way to get it is to complain." So you might say a little complainer comes into being here. Have you been around a baby when it’s not getting what it want immediately? What does it do?
It cries. And that’s a very unpleasant sound and gets other people on the ball to try to shut it up because that disturbs you. Nature designed it that way--I think quite well.
Now then, the infant gets along just fine by doing some complaining, but after a couple of years have you noticed that complaining usually don’t get everybody to straighten up for you? Hmm? First two years works fantastic. But how does your complaining work to get your way these days? Does it get everybody in line and they straighten up and start doing what you want them to do?
[No, I found that…]
It doesn’t work very well. But the thing was you don’t complain loud enough and long enough. (laughter).
Now, you know, we keep on complaining, we haven’t checked up and said, wait a minute, I’m’ not an infant any more, so this don’t work. Have you complained any, anybody here complained in the last month? (laughter) Did it work? No. Do you keep on doing it?
Do you call complaining getting all upset and feeling sorry for yourself and etc., etc., etc. Is that right? Huh?
So you see that all the complaining in the world—and there is gobs of it going on—doesn’t get what it was designed for.. Now if you’re going to complain, complain consciously, “I’m trying to get my way with this method.” And let’s see if it works. Now, if you’re going to expend some energy to get something to go your way, surely we would want to use a method that would work Does complaining work? It doesn’t work worth a darn. But we go right on complaining. As I said, any of you complained in the last month, and it seemed that most everybody kind of concurred in one way or another that you had. Probably if I’d had said in the last four hours you would have been there, too. Yes ma’am?
[If you’re complaining to somebody who wants to be more non-disturbed than you want to be, it does work.]
Well, yeah, a few of them--until they raise up on their hind legs and shoot you. I worked in a mental hospital one time as an intern. And there was a lady we had there who repeatedly told the same story over and over and over and over and over. The story came over and over and over. The story was, “every time he came in the house he said, why you doing that? No matter what I was doing, if I was cooking, he said, why’re you doing that? If I was sweeping the floor he said, why you doing that? If I was doing that he said why you doing that? And it just got to me. And one day I was sitting making him a shirt, with my sewing machine. He walked in the door and said, why you doing that? And I don’t know why but my hand picked up the scissors and drove them in his throat, and he died. I don’t know why, I didn’t intend to kill him. But he just said why are you doing that one time too many.” So it may work for a while, but you still get scissors jabbed through your throat. So she was going over this. She, I suppose, spent the rest of her life there with this same story, you see.
Somebody used a complaining tone of voice at her, you’re doing something wrong, and it wasn’t just the words, it was the tone of voice the man used. And finally, even though it had worked for several years, it didn’t work that time, he’s dead. She’s sitting in a mental hospital. So complaining don’t get very far, but it is a method; and if you want to use it and say, look I’m going to complain, but do it consciously. You’ll do a much better job of it then when you just react. Now when you say that you have complained consciously and deliberately is the best way to get what you wanted--did you do it consciously, or did you just do it because you reacted--mechanically, you might say?
Do you consciously think--I’m going to complain to get these people in line?
Once in a blue moon. Does it always work? Sometimes?
Let's try a new picture. Now we're not talking about you never complain. We’re not talking about that. We’re not going to condemn or justify, we’re going to be considering and say, Nw I’m going to try to get my way in this situation, the way I want it, huh? I’ve got many options. If I just react and start complaining, then I have no options at all--I have to just react and I feel terrible and so forth, right?
Now--can I sometimes choose to complain? Sometimes I can choose to sell my way into having my way. There’s lots of ways to go about getting your way--sometimes just going and doing it yourself is the easiest. But whatever the case may be, you can do it consciously. We can do it consciously instead of just mechanically where we complain because our feathers were ruffled, so to speak.
So that’s the first method that the child used. So now we’ve lost control of a certain amount of "awareness" and it has just becomes mechanical.
As the child gets a little older he begins to stomp his feet and holler to have his way. He gets belligerent. So now he’s saying he’s "sticking up for his rights." The way to get non-disturbed is to "stick up for his rights." And he begins to see all sorts of things as being "rights."--stick up for my rights. You hear lots of words about that.
Did you ever stop to think bout what your rights probably would be? Ever think about that? Didn't you arrive in the world pretty much in the same condition I did? Broke, helpless, naked, no know-how, no teeth, totally incapable of looking after yourself?--is that the way you got here? You didn’t even bring a toothbrush because you didn’t have a tooth, right? So, you found a world well-equipped with food, clothing, shelter, couple of slaves to look after you and everything else you needed. So now where’s your rights?
It looks to me like we’ve been extended a tremendous amount of privileges; however, when we have had them a few times we mistake them for rights. Let's say a beggar comes down the street and knocks on Bob and Betty’s door and every day they give him a sandwich for four days. The fifth day he comes by they don’t have a sandwich for him, he would be very angry, wouldn’t he? He considers it his “right” to come here and get a sandwich. Five days and you’ve got a right. And if he doesn't get it, he’s angry. He didn’t see it was a privilege for those four days. By the fifth day he thinks it's a right.
So we’ve had so many "privileges" that we think of as "rights" and go around "sticking up for them". That’s when we begin to lose our "privileges". The best way in the world to lose a "privilege" is to mistake it for a "right" and start sticking up for it. If we could see that everything we have is a "privilege", we could probably take better care of them. I like all my "privileges" and I’d like to maintain them, enhance them, and get more! Wouldn’t you? I’d like to keep all the ones I have--I’d like to maintain the ones I have--I’d like to even enhance those a little bit, and I’d like to get some more--Privileges. I’m not entitled to them, or anything of the sort; and if you stop and look, what do you really have a right to?
Now I know that we have legal things that we can file lawsuits on. It’s like a friend of mine got a patent on something the other day, he got it about seven or eight months ago. Two weeks ago he found somebody else was making this widget that he had the patent on. He said, they can’t do that. And I said, they’re doing it. Yeah, well the patent office is supposed to stop them. No, the patent office won’t do that. Your patent gives you the legal right to sue, and that’s all. You can go to the courthouse and sue to make the guy quit. You got to get him stopped. The government’s not going to stop him, because you have a patent on the thing. It’s entirely up to you to stop him and try to recover damages and all this good stuff. After he got through looking at it he probably figured it wasn’t worth bothering with.
So, you have no "rights". We’ll say. I have no "rights". Maybe we could discover that. I have a lot of "privileges", and I’d like to keep them. I’d like to enhance them and I’d like to get more. You’d be surprised how different your thinking process goes when you think of everything you have as a "privilege" rather than a "right". Your whole internal makeup goes through quite a transformation right there. You want to try that one or not--it’s immaterial. It’s not important, but it’s very interesting to see that if you only changed one thing, you begin to view all the privileges you have and your whole process--that you have no rights, you have a lot of privileges that you would like to maintain, enhance and gain more. You will see a decided transformation in your whole state of being come about very rapidly. We’ll leave that one where it is.
So the first way that the child begins to do, after his folks have put up with his complaining and his sticking up for rights as long as they can, they finally decide that he better be pleasing them. So they put a little force or effort on demanding that the young being "please them". Have any of you got children?
Have you gone through the point to see at some time or other that they please you?
It’s important to "please them", is the idea. It is important to "please them".
Now remember all of these are without conscious words.
People just do them by reaction. Now when you get this ["stick up for rights"] and this [please them]--that brings a split in here. So over here you leave a little bit of intellect--which kind of figures out how to do things? But there’s an awful lot of feeling reaction going on and these are pure reaction down here. They’re without thought, they’re just as mechanical as can be.
And so there’s a conflict going on. Now I think everybody knows what we mean by the word conflict. You have felt it, have you not? And conflict is the human problem. It is the disintegrating factor, it’s what pulls people apart--conflict. And if we should get around to the point where we had no conflict, we might find that we’re in an entirely different state of being. So what we’re going to talk about is to get rid of conflict.
Now conflict is basically between these [complaining and sticking up for rights] and this [pleasing] and the intellect. The intellect wants to go one way and this one wants to go another way.
And you find that most everybody tells you that “I want to do something creatively.” That’s by the time they get twenty two, three years old, they begin to tell you they want to do something that’s creative. Did you ever feel that way? You felt that way? Want to do something creative. Well of course we think of painting a picture, building a house, or digging a ditch or whatever, but that never seems to quite satisfy.
The creative thing is to create a unity within. And that’s what that urge to be creative is, is to get the inner being back into one being. And if you ever work on that you’ll find that it’s extremely satisfying creative thing and it makes it awful easy to do all the other things that people talk about. So the word creative is referring and the urge that people are wanting to do, is the create this back into one unit like it was supposed to be, like it was designed to do.
The fourth one is to "believe and do as you are told by your authorities". They took you down and let you listen to all the authorities and they told you if you do this all the proper way—"believe and do as the authorities say". So people fight wars over who’s the proper authority, don’t they? I think if we read the news or listen to it at all these days why we find that a lot of countries have got some contending authorities, and they’re having a war as to which one you’re going to listen to--WHY PEOPLE FIGHT WARS--I think it all boils down to who would you rather pay your taxes to, me or you? I’d rather they paid it to me. But you’d rather you got it, is that right? So now let’s see that the "others" are all "bad" and we’ll start us a program.
And then we get along to the point where we want to "improve" ourselves. If we were just "improved". And it’s pretty hard to "improve" on a human being. What would you do, add another arm? Another leg? Another head? What would you do? Huh? If you was going to improve a human being, how would you go about it?
[I would make my head (work?) better…]
Well, I don’t think you can make yours better, they all work pretty good now--except when you have conflict and you’re trying to do two things at one time. You can’t do that. That paralyzes you, right? If you didn’t have conflict you couldn’t much improve on it, is that right? And you can’t improve conflict except make more of it. So let’s say that we could "wake up" a little bit and see that maybe the conflict would all go.
And the last one we all decided was that if we could straighten all these other people out, everything would be all right. So we’ll call that the "blamer". If he, she, they, it and this and that were all different, then I would be just fine. So it’s all your fault--so there. And as long as you’re "blaming" something, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.
So now we have the picture of man as a very fragmented being. Here’s the environment out here, and the impulse goes in here, it’s according to which one of these families of personalities it hits as to which reaction takes place. No matter what reaction happens, the other side over here and says you shouldn’t have done that. So you "stick up for your rights" and that’s fine for an hour or two and then you begin to have a feeling of "guilt" or something that maybe you shouldn’t have quite done it that way. Maybe I was a little "wrong" in doing it that way, right? Have you ever had that feeling? So that gives you conflict. Or maybe when an event occurred the little reaction from the environment came in and you went and "pleased" them and did everything for them. The point is that after you did the "pleasing" you thought , "I don’t ever get to do anything I want to do", " I just have to do what everybody else wants all the time". And you had a good dose of "self-pity."
You do that routine anybody? Ever feel sorry for yourselfgible]
So here is the way the situation goes. Now we will describe what is going on with the reactions to different circumstances.
Now I will draw this cycle--this is the Vicious
So we have a misconception based upon these old decisions we made when we were little kids that the whole purpose of living is to be non-disturbed .
It’s important to have "my way" and it’s important to have my 'rights".
It’s important to know what’s to "blame", it’s important to "please" other people.
It’s important to 'believe" something that somebody told me, and it’s important to "improve myself". So we have a misconception.
Now when you have a misconception, sooner or later, and usually much sooner, you have a "false feeling of emergency".
Remember we said it was a false feeling.
It was like seeing a rubber snake when we thought it was a real one. That’d be a false feeling of emergency, wouldn’t it? That brings about a state of chemical imbalance because you’re prepared to fight or run, and there’s no fighting or running to do--there is, however a chemical imbalance and neuromuscular tension.
In tension, you’re nervous--tight; stressed is the prettier word for it today. “I’m in a state of stress. I’m undergoing a stressful situation.”--or I’m undergoing a traumatic experience.
So it means you’re in chemical imbalance and neuromuscular tension.
The body can’t live that way so X says it has got to straighten out this chemical imbalance in the body. So X does it with "adaptation". And thank goodness for "adaptation".
So we start adapting.
Now there’s two ways to adapt. Good people adapt one way, and the ones that are strong adapt the other way. The ones that complain, stick up for their rights and blame adapt one way, and the ones that try to please everybody, improve themselves and quote the proper authorities and say "praise the Lord" use the other method.
I’m going to describe their [B-side] method first. This is the “good” people. First there’s an unusual cellular activity. They sit and hold that "stuff" in and very shortly a bunch of cells begin to do something that they ordinarily don’t do--so that’s a change in function--unusual cellular activity is the first thing that happens.
Any unusual cellular activity produces unusual sensation. Unusual sensation is soreness, pain, stiffness, aches, misery, puffiness and what have you. So you have an unusual sensation going on. Now that is enough to send you to the doctor. You think you've got to go down there to the doctor to see what the physical discomfort is. So you tell the doctor your symptoms and he can’t find anything wrong yet because the tissue cells are all fine. So with him not finding anything wrong, it gives another "false feeling of emergency", however, it's more about your condition now. Now you put a few pills in the body for the symptoms; and after many trips around this [vicious] cycle of unusual cellular activity and unusual sensation, finally some tissue cells are altered or break down.
Now you have a pathology.
The doctor can find something wrong with you now. You just know he didn’t find it before, it was bound to have been there all the time. It wasn’t. It just got there after so much wear and tear it finally breaks down.
Now that is all the physical symptoms you can ever have, just three--a change in function, which produces a change in sensation; and keep it up long enough and your tissue cells are altered or break down.
Now you can call that a pathology. Could you think of any other symptom you’ve ever had--according to where it’s located and so forth. We can give it a thousand names. Did you ever have any other than that? You had a change in function somewhere in your body, change in sensation, and finally you had a little lesion somewhere. Did you ever have anything else?
You’re going to tell me whether you live on A side or on B side here in a minute, but it doesn’t matter whether it’s a pain in the neck or a pain somewhere else. Still comes out the same way, okay?
Now the people who live basically over here (a-side) don’t wait around and hold all this stuff in, when they want to complain they complain out loud--not just to themselves. And when they want to stick up for their rights they tell you about it. The A side indulges in unusual behavior. They throw a drunk--go on a binge of some sort or other. They may adapt by getting even ortake a gun and kill twenty people. They’re going to do unusual behavior. It’s their routine. They don’t wait around to have unusual cellular activity, they’re going to do it NOW.
Now if you use that form of adaptation you’ll probably live a lot longer, but you won’t have too many friends. You don’t get get-well cards or sympathy cards. Hardly ever does somebody send a sympathy card to the guy in jail--or things like that.
Now using the B-side adaptation you could get more attention, but you won’t live very long, messes you up physically--and it’s very painful. You can choose whatever one you want--or neither.
You don’t have to have either one, you can quit both of them. You don’t have to go through the adaptation.
You can begin to see that things are not all that important.
It’s not important to be non-disturbed.
It’s not important to have your way.
It’s not important to stick up for your rights, that you don’t have.
You can begin to see, this is what I want and I’m going to use whatever method I choose to try to get it, and I’ve got several options.
My dear old mother always told me you could catch more flies with honey then you could with vinegar. Of course I never was too interested in having flies, but, at least you kind of know what she’s talking about.
So let’s begin to look and see if we can determine that we will be a conscious person--that we are somewhat considerate of what information we send to this Life, because it’s going to do the appropriate thing for the information we, it receives.
Let’s say that you had a partner who would carry out all the doing and all you had to turn in was what was to be done. Wouldn’t that be a fair partnership?
[That’d be great.]
You happen to have it. We just haven’t taken very good advantage of it. You have a partner which always does, and will do, the appropriate thing for the information you turn in--but does X say to you, "You’ve got to give the information?. " Now if you’re turning in information that the thing to do is to "give them hell". They get hell, all right, with the yelling, kicking, fighting, whatever you want--but, you also take what goes with that.
So now we have a partner. The partner is the executive, it carries out things, it executes. Our job is to determine what. So the two things involved are what and how. Now thank goodness we don’t have to figure out the how. I don’t know how to say a word. I’m aware I want a word said and pfft!--I experience the word being said. The partner does it. I don’t know how to pick up this piece of chalk—there’s a hundred little fancy movements go on in there. But the partner [X] picks it up, He knows how to do it--I just wanted to pick the chalk up.
If I’m driving an automobile, I just see where I want to go. I don’t think I have to turn this seventeen degrees here, I got to let a fourteenth of a centimeter off the gas, I got to turn here back this way-- I don’t! I see what I want, I’m reporting that, and X drives the car. You don’t know how to drive a car.
Do you know how to swallow? You’ve been swallowing all your life but do you know how to do it?
You don’t know how to do it ANY time. It just take place?
Do you know how to stand up? Do you know what the first muscle group you tighten up if you want to stand up? Do you? Surprisingly, I’ve watched it enough and I’m catching on that I don’t know how to do it; but I can see it. If I said would you please stand up, the first muscle you tighten up is in the back of your neck. Try to stand up and leave your neck real relaxed. (laughter) Yeah, relax it and leave it all just hanging, now let’s see you stand up. (laughter)
[I wasn’t aware of it]
But you have to tighten it up. No, you’re not aware of anything because X does the work, but It has to tighten up the neck--you’re just not aware of it.
You don’t know how to do anything, X takes care of all the how, we only say what.
But of course mankind wants to turn that process upside down. He says, "Oh Lord you tell me what to do and I’ll take care of it. It can’t work that way.
But you are responsible to say what you want. You’re responsible for that. It won’t do anything until it gets a what. It doesn't just do it.
[Where do we get tangle up? We think that other things are part of, I mean…]
Oh, we’ve been educated that some things are very difficult, beyond… and all that. We’ve been allowed to do certain things ever since we were kids and other things we weren’t. But the point is It’ll do anything that you say--that’s what it is. Okay? It will do Just what you want done.
You want to write a word on that paper, do you know all the muscles you use to do that? You haven’t the foggiest? You just know what you want to write, is that right? So that information goes to X, X does the appropriate thing down here, little handwriting--and you just get to watch it because you haven’t the foggiest idea how to do those little actions.
Do you ever drive the car and think, I’m going to turn the wheel a sixteenth…
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[the next sentence is incomplete due to the time it takes to reposition or insert a new tape during the workshop, but the subject is still on accurate reporting]
…say, well, I think he means this--or that. He just does, X does exactly the action for information it receives. So it’s well to be precise.
Now if you knew that you could have just about anything and that you could concisely report; I think you would pay a little more attention to what you’re reporting. You would pay more attention than you do when you’re reporting willy-nilly without any "awareness." For instance you’re reporting that you’re being put upon--you’ve reported that you’re being mistreated. Perhaps you’re reporting that you’re in a terrible shape, and all this.
If you started reporting accurately you’d pay more attention to it. Is that right?
[But why would you bother learning anything. Why would you go to school, why would you take lessons…]
To learn how--to what? You learn what does what. I learn al I can learn about these. I can’t push the button (only X knows which muscles to move to push the button to start the machine.) I go to school to learn which button does what things.
I have a computer in the office. You push certain buttons. You put certain programs in it, and the programs do certain things. I had to learn those.
I have to learn how to "report." And that’s what we’re talking about this morning, is how to report in our everyday affairs--especially in our personal and interpersonal relationships. You have to learn what makes which thing jump, is that right?
I know certain people that respond certain ways. I got them all cataloged here. So I say certain things to those particular people, and I say certain other things to those people over there.
I also pay attention to what tone of voice I’m using when I’m talking to them; because the tone has as much to do with what I want to communicate as the words--sometimes a whole lot more.
It’s like that woman that jabbed the scissors in his [her husband's] throat. It was the tone of voice he used when he said, "Why you doing that." day after day which implied----you’re a nut or you wouldn’t be doing that. She had all she could take one day. I probably would have praised her and sent her home; but I didn’t think it was the appropriate thing to say. She had her choice of being in prison or a mental hospital; she got the mental hospital--I don’t know why. It’s a worse joint.
The fact is that we learn many, many, many things--not how to, but ability to report accurately. I think if we spent a considerable time studying as to what we wanted to report; , we would probably spend our time a lot better. That’s what we’re going to get the response to. We think we are learning how to do things--but we really don’t know how to do them.
We can do considerable amount for ourselves by learning accurate reporting--how to report accurately, what’s going on, and what I would like to see happen with it. And if I can do that, things turn around very decidedly.
So it seems to me that maybe instead of just reacting--and you could say muddling through--we might do it a little accurately and take advantage of this fantastic gift that we have of having a partner who will always do the appropriate thing for the information it receives. So it’s up to me to do the reporting accurately.
I think if you look at that proposition you will see the value in doing it and begin to take a little care and consideration of how we report.
Let’s have questions, comments, I’ve talked long enough. Now, we’ll discuss. Yes?
[Robert and I were discussing reporting concerning golf. We reported that we wanted to get between seventy-five and eighty in the score. Is that accurate reporting?]
I report I want to hit the ball and I want that ball to get over there. That's it. I’m not going to talk about the whole game. Spirit doesn't handle that kind of concept. I look at the ball--I look where it is, and I look down there where I want it to go. I don’t try to figure out if I got to wiggle this way or that way, or even that way. Here’s the ball, and there’s where I want it to go. I don’t try to figure out how to do it. And you know, it’s surprising how close it gets to that hole all the time.
[One… at a time]
One at a time. You can’t complicate and say, "Wait a minute, I want to report here once a year, make me a million this year." It won’t work. Yes, sir?
[Suppose you report to X you want a certain thing done, and somewhere along the way you change your mind…]
After you found out how it was working, anyway, huh?
[You report back that you want to stop that action?]
Oh, I would, yeah, if I got it going and I don’t like the way it’s working out. I say cancel--let’s blow it.
[You report goals…]
I don’t report goals. No, I just see what I want to do, one at a time. Not out in front. In other words now let’s don’t get so efficient that we say well, let’s write it out. We’re talking about reporting one time and California where things are a little more exotic than they are in the rest of the country. A lady came in one night with the things she wanted. She wanted me to aid and report with her.
She had four pages--legal size paper, and she had everything under the sun from a yellow Corvette, to an affair with WE, to getting married to a very rich man, after the affair with kWE. This went on and on and on and on. It gets ridiculous.
Now. If you want to do this, you do this. X only considers now. X hasn’t got a history book and says, "Well let’s put all this sequence out here." X is NOW
In other words, if I pick this up, and I’m going to throw it directly at you. I’m going to report that I want it to hit your nose. You’re going to see it coming, you’re going to report something too--like knock it down. Is that right? And it would hit your nose if you didn’t move. But when you report "stop" X will knock it over.
Now, if you reported I don’t want to ever get hit by chalk throwing, then you’re all out of time and place.
So we’re talking about—you see, we have an idea of chronological time. We interchange distance and time and make something out of it. X is not all that-- doesn’t bother with that--as far as X is concerned, it’s always now.
If I sit here and worry about some fantastic something that might happen to me next year, I’m picturing it. X says it’s happening right now and prepares the body to fight or run now for this situation I’m dreaming.
Did you ever sit and cogitate what you're going to say at the next meeting of someone your angry with? What you're going to say the next time you saw them? You had all your little speeches rehearsed and you were telling them off.
Frequently you’re driving in the road and you see a guy next to you in the car all alone, but snarling. His body is reacting as right then and there, X is taking that he actually is in some kind of confrontation thing happening right now.
Do you see. It doesn’t know anything about past, future, it’s only now, and it only knows one thing at a time. It doesn’t take complicated states. So we just say this is what you’re going to do.
When you drive a car you’re going to turn this corner. … I’m not going to turn the corner down in Miami somewhere, until get to Miami.
[Yes, you mentioned about the importance that X will accept one thing, and will act on that. What if in a period of twenty-four hours, you’re interested in a certain type of work situation or whatever it is and you have all your attention on that, and you’re reporting to X; but you have other interests too…]
It can handle a number of them, as long as you can--but one moment at a time.
[I’ve got it straight now.]
One moment at a time. You see, we are reporting all the time.
We are totally unaware of it most of the time but we are reporting all the time. And what we’re talking about doing is making it conscious that I’m reporting all the time.
Sure, I’ve got a project of putting an additioin in a building and it’s going to take all week to do it, but it’s done one piece at a time. Right? In the meantime I go home, I cook dinner, I entertain people, I write a book, I give a talk, I counsel somebody over the telephone--all sorts of things are going on in a week--but one at a time.
Sure. I’m not going to be stuck with just fixing that building next week. But it’s every moment you are talking to your partner--every moment, consciously or unconsciously. And I’m suggesting we might do it consciously, okay?
Yes ma’am. You.
[I’m heavily into non-disturbance--the more I watch for it, the more I see I am. I had a little bit of a problem at work and realized, that I had to do something if I valued the job. So I decided that every day before I go into work, I will report that I want to add to a pleasant mood and be harmless. And, of course, everything has turned around and now I have a wonderful delightful new attitude towards the boss. But how do I know that I’m not just trying to self-improve.]
Well, you couldn’t improve yourself, we know you couldn’t do that, but you did work on doing something as best you could to see what is to your advantage, is that right?
[I have to correct myself all during the day when I…]
With what light you have you’re doing what’s to your advantage. You are contributing to a pleasant, harmonious mood at work; and it makes you a very delightful person to have around, is that right?
And when you’re running around there grumping and "sticking up for your rights", you were a very nice person to have gone. You’re coming is only improved by your going in that case.
Never try to figure out what all your motives are. You have many motives for everything.
Try to figure out if you’re working for "what I want". In other words, you wanted to keep the job, is that right? And you found out that being obnoxious and complaining and all this other stuff, whatever it was you were doing, you weren’t a pleasant person to have around. Apparently. And now that you’re making a contribution to a pleasant mood, why the boss says you’re a delight to have there. And he’s more than happy to pay you your income whether you do anything other than contribute to a mood or not. Can you see that?
Okay, just keep on.
[But, what if I’m actually suppressing a lot of…]
Why are you suppressing? What is there to suppress? Complaining? Sticking up for rights and so forth?
[I guess my real personality runs…]
No, you’re "conditioned personality." Your real one would like to make a contribution. And the others down there are always trying to say you’re doing things the wrong way and for the wrong purpose. The whole purpose of these little "complainers"and "stickers up for rights" is………. We refer to them as Not-I’s frequently because they’re really not you, but they act like they are.
Their whole purpose is to make you miserable. So now that you’ve got the job going good, they’re trying to make you miserable by saying, "Well, you’re doing the right thing but for the wrong reason."
May I offer a suggestion, please? Tell them to go to hell, in no uncertain terms. I mean emphatically---get lost! They have to do it if you tell them emphatically. Let you alone. You’re in the business of doing what you can see is to your advantage. And they’re not your "real" personality, they’re Not-I’s, okay? And they want to make--no matter what you do--they want to make it bad. Okay? So just tell them to get lost.
[Along technical designs, you’re trying to design something that takes maybe four parts to a puzzle. You do three right and the fourth hangs all around… what part of the puzzle… what’s the way of reporting?]
Well, I would report "what I have" and "what I want" and be quiet for a few minutes, go out and have a cup of coffee.
[Well, that’s kind of what I did and … three days.]
That doesn’t make any difference, that’s awful quick, I think. What’s your mad rush? Are you on a deadline or something? I have had things where I’ve sat looking for some situation--I know what you’re talking about. And I can report and gradually I notice that I’m reporting more accurately the more I look at it. And I think you’ll find it took you three days to report accurately. Not three days to get the answer. Once you got the reporting done accurately. We can report kind of the least bit off and we don’t get an answer. Okay?
Well, that’s when you got it down so you can state it accurately. Really, that’s what it amounts to. So, sometime when things aren’t working it’s because we’re not reporting accurately. So I’m always checking up on my reporting rather then why it didn’t happen.
[Suppose you had a physical ailment and you want----guidance? How would you report that.]
Well, I do it for other people but not for me. I find if I had the physical ailment, I make it important. For somebody else’s I can be very objective about it, so I report for other people. But if I have something, I go tell somebody else to report for me--I can’t over-emphasize the value of that. Don’t try to work on yourself.
If you got something bugging you call me, I’ll be happy to report for you. If I got something I’ll call you and you report for me. Is that all right?
Don’t try to do it for yourself on physical ailments or something you’re making important—if you’re going to make it important, don’t try to report on it. That’s a fairly good rule of thumb, okay? Now, we’ll move over one.
[If everything is not important, how would you report anything ?]
Oh, I think that I'd see it as interesting and delightful. I can have all the feeling in the world. Only feeling I have when I make anything important is anxiety, and I’d rather report something besides anxiety. When you make anything important, you’re only reporting anxiety. Whenever I make anything important I’m anxious. So are you, and so is everybody else. I don’t report anxiety. I’d like to report enthusiasm, interest, delight, and beauty and all sorts of a jillion other things. But I don’t want to report any anxiety. Does that help answer your question?
[That’s reporting accurately?]
Yeah. You see, most of us have been "conditioned" so long that if it’s not important it’s worthless. I don’t think you’re important, but you’re a very delightful person. I know I’m not important, but some people find me interesting. Some find me boring, too, but that's their problem. If they don’t like me, they got poor taste.
[I’ve noticed that… sometimes… (unintelligible)]
Yeah. Well, they’re reporting it’s all ready; and we said X only works on everything in the now; so if I’m bragging about something, it’s liable to happen-- yeah. I’m reporting it’s happening… X says here it is--now.
Usually, also, if you start bragging and saying you did it, you’d be surprised how fast it can all disappear. I don’t like to take credit for very many things in this world, because basically I didn’t do it. All I did was report something about it. The kind of bragging I see that’s deterimental is when somebody starts saying how they were so important and did all these things.
[They have I-it is.]
Yeah, they have I-it is. you read one page they have twenty-seven I’s in it. Yes ma’am, we’ll be back over there in a minute.
[I was working on a bunch of Not-I’s last weekend, I was practically writing them and everything and at the end I reported that I would like to take these Not-I’s and throw them in the garbage where they belong. Which I did.] Then you went through it. [Um, but, no, they jumped up out of the garbage, there was a whole bunch of garbage… ] Well, you said you would like to, and I find if you tell them in no emphatic, in a very emphatic way, shut up! [… try to be polite…] I’m not polite with Not-I’s. And uh, you don’t need to be polite with Not-I’s. Okay. They’re demons, they wouldn’t understand politeness anyway. [What you’re saying is say it out loud?] Well, if you’re off by yourself, otherwise people (laughter)… yeah, go down by the railroad track and scream at them.
187 [I’ve been kind of … the last few weeks, I’ve been working on… and I found that I … every time I’m in a restaurant I’ll be looking at the menu and the waitress says what kind of dressing on your salad and I’ll think Oh God I want some roquefert dressing and then I think about the size of my rear end so I order another kind of dressing, and inevitably…] what does it make bigger? [Pardon?] What does the other kind make bigger? (laughter) [But, um, what is happening, I’ve been getting in restaurants what I’ve been thinking I wanted rather than what I actually ordered.] Right. Well, because you reported to X accurately what you wanted, not what you said. See, what people say is frequently not what they’re even thinking about. You know that don’t you? [Yeah… ] Sure, we do that all the time. So, what you really want is what you’ve been getting, isn’t? (laughter) [Yeah… big piece of cheesecake…] Why don’t you report that all those good things you like to eat has no effect on your size? [I’ve tried!] But I know, but you are reporting that this is going to make me fat. Or whatever you say, make your bottom big or whatever. The point is, if you report accurately, your body picks up from the food you eat what it needs for today’s metabolism and the rest of it goes out the drain. Just an expensive garbage. And you don’t mind that, do you? Okay. So you report accurately that your body’s only going to take out of the food what it needs for today’s metabolism. The rest of it’s garbage, okay?
There’s a lady that I know that has fought the battle of the bulge for years, and did all the frantic diets and everything. Some months I told her if she would quit dieting and quit talking about weight, I’d see that she lost weight. She now has dropped something like fifty, sixty pounds and she has not been on any diet and she’s eating anything she wants to. See? Now, she don’t want a lot of things she used to want, I’m sure of it.
[The more you try to diet and try to lose weight the more conscious you are of …] Why sure, and so you’re never thinking of nothing but food. So you know, if you’re going to eat, eat. But for goodness sakes report the accurate factual thing is that your body, unless you’re in a state of anxiety, and which you are ;if you’re worrying about what you’re going to eat, if you’re in a state of anxiety, the body’s going to pick up everything you put in here. And store it up because it figures it’s going to have to fight or run pretty quick, so it stores ;it up. It’s like if you heard that there was going to be a some kind of strike that no food could be brought into this area for six weeks, you’d probably go down and buy some supplies to put at home. Is that right? Well, when you’re anxious, you see, X, that’s reporting. That I’m in danger, so it stores up everything it can get to wait for this emeergency. Which don’t ever happen. But it’s doing the appropriate thing for the information it receives.
Now if you will report I’m peaceful and everything’s wonderful and at ease, and this body only picks up out of the digestive tract that which it needs for today’s metabolism, the rest of it’s garbage. I never think of food. Do you? Yeah, you do all the time… (laughter) Ever think about getting fat? Do you? [When something gets too tight.] Well it gets too tight go out and buy something bigger. (laughter).
But you see all this business is conditioned that you’ve got to watch every ounce and count every calorie and everything and obviously that’s not all correct. Report accurately. Yes sir?
[How can I accurately report (unintelligible)] Well, I’d walk up and down through the aisles and cut each tree (?) I think as I went, you see, that’s one limbs on it, and that one’s got… I’d report about each tree I guess. Won’t take very long to walk through ten acres. I’d report the condition of each tree… Don’t have to do it all on one day.
[You don’t report about a band of trees?] No, I report how much of it’s working.
[Chas.L: X does the appropriate thing for the information received. However if the information is false…] It does the appropriate thing for that false information. [… the information is true…] Always acts as though the information’s true. That’s why we don’t want all these Not-I’s in there. [But it doesn’t make the information true?] Oh, no. It’s just acts upon it as though it were. So if, uh, I’m hallucinating and see a pretty bridge over a creek and I start driving over that bridge and it’s not there… (laughter) I’m going to get a little wet. But X is doing theappropriate thing for the information received. Which it does, all the time. But it doesn’t evaluate the information. It… [some people report… things don’t happen the way … that it should happen to tother people. People who walk on fire, and that sort of thing.] Oh, those are all stunts and we can all do stunts if we want to. But you also have to know the rest of the stunt business. If you want to be a magician, that’s another story. You don’t report accurately but you’ve got a lot more to report. [Bob I’m not talking about being a magician.] Well I’m talking about walking on fire and so forth. [I just.. if what we think is true is true. Is that precisely true or false?]
Well, never is precisely, but only approximate I would think, but a lot of things we hold to be very true we find out three or four years later, it wasn’t true at all. [It’s a deception of some type.] Sometimes. The only thing that I said was is that X does the appropriate thing for the information it receives. If the information is obviously totally erroneous it’ll still do the appropriate thing as though that information were true. If the information is approximately true, it’ll do that. Maybe with more information. It’s like Melba ask a while ago about something she had to have four pieces to make something work, she had three of them, she had to wait three or four days to get the other one. Takes longer to report that. I never check up on trying to see what’s true, I try to check up to see how well I;m reporting every day, I do do that.
[How do you do that? What kind of questions do you … to make sure the information you’re reporting is correct?] Well, I just keep looking to see how it turns out pretty well and … [You mean if you’re getting results you’re reporting accurately and ] Well, approximate results. I didn’t even say accurately, I said within the ballpark. I don’t think any of us report totally accurately, we’re just somewhere’s in the ballpark. So I’m trying always to improve my reporting.
[My question dealt with improving reporting.] That’s the business I’m in, I want to get more and more information, accurate information. The more accurate information I have the better I can function. The more of this conditioning I let operate and do reporting, the bigger bets I’m in, okay? I don’t like to be in bets, I’ve tried that long enough. Okay? Now somebody else had a word, back here, yes?
[You mentioned before about reporting for others… how does that work?] I could report for you. You tell me that you, uh, you name it, I could probably report because I wouldn’t make it important. If it was for me I probably would be tempted to make it a little important. You can report for anybody. You report for other people all the time, you see a kid running across the street, you’re driving, you report the kid’s about to get hit, the car goes whoop! Right?
[If you’re reporting, you’re reporting, actually you’re one, aren’t you? So how (unintelligible) Of course not. I don’t deserve anything. […] Why should I get only what I deserve? If I only got what I deserve I’d have been dead years ago. (laughter) Huh? [Reporting is kind of getting your wants.] Probably so, is there anything wrong with that? […] Well, I’ve been taught a lot of things that I can’t check up on. If you didn’t never want anything, how long do you think you could survive? If you didn’t ever want water again, how long do you think you’d make it? If you didn’t want the feeling of oxygen flowing through your body, how long do you think you’d get along without breathing? You want to breathe, don’t you? Huh? [Well that would be deserved.] No, you don’t deserve a damn thing. You don’t even deserve to be alive, that’s a gift. Pure unadulterated gift. You didn’t do anything to earn it. So you don’t deserve anything, as far as life’s conderned. It’s all a gift honey.
Sometime late this afternoon I’ll talk about something that kind of describes that a little bit. Then I’ll keep it in line. But you don’t deserve anything, or I don’t, or anybody else that I know of. I’d be fried in oil if we got what we deserved. (laughter)
[If another person is sick, and there’s unusual cellular activity in one form or another, and you want to report for that person, now you don’t report that the person is sick, you report that you want that person to be integrated or feeling…] put together, and I would like to also usually report that the anxiety comes to an end. They had to get all scrambled up or they wouldn’t be sick.
[When I’m reporting, I’ll report when everything is going pretty rotten…] when it goes like you don’t like it to be [Exactly!] Yeah, I don’t know if that’s rotten, but it’s not like you want it to be. [Right. Not like I want it to be. And then, um, uh, I’ll try to keep observing, even when the right buttons are being pushed, and um, then when I try to make that a habit and I say look at it, wait now, start to report, well, everything seems to be all right, because I guess it’s pleasant, like I’d want it to be.] Yeah, it’s all right, like I want it. Everything’s going like I want it. [So if you reported that, seems like…] You’d be reporting more accurate if you reported it’s going like I want it to than you would be if it’s going all right, okay? [But it seems like the second wave will come and the ones I don’t like will be…] Well, they do come along, but are you reporting to be non-disturbed or are you reporting for things to function well. [That’s what
I’m caught at.] I think you’re trying to
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369 report it that way for a while. You know, be accurate about it. Don’t say it’s good. Because you don’t know what’s good. But you can say it’s, I’m relatively non-disturbed right now and I like that. Huh? Report accurately, that’s all we’re tallking about.
Yes ma’am. [Well, a friend called me up and said she had a very bad diagnosis in her … very ill and also said would you report for me, but would you also report that my husband’s business would be doing well, and I’m a victim… and so, okay… when I started to report for her I couldn’t report for her husband’s business because I thought she was asking the wrong thing. So instead of that I reported that she would just be free to experience whatever happened… so then she called back another day. And she said, okay, I’m all right now, but now will you report for my husband’s business, would you report that everything will work out for the best for everyone conderned?] Well, that’s… why even bother to report that, it already is.
But, everything works pretty well as you report it, but, uh, we can be very erroneous in our reporting sometimes, so it’s pretty well to look at. […] I don’t necessarily report everything people call me up and ask me for, okay? Not that I say it’s good, bad or indifferent, but I look at it and do certainly consider whether it seems, uh, reasonably true … report or any reason to, okay. Okay, somebody else have a question anywhere?
[Did you say a minute ago that … somebody healed… anxiety.] Yeah, that works a lot better. You’re getting closer to reporting about the illness, you see. If you try to stop a symptom, reported about some symptom, let’s say somebody had a headache… and if the anxiety is still there and you got the headache gone, they’re going to have something else and it might be a lot worse. Okay? In other words, the symptom, the pain is only a sign of the problem, it’s not the problem. The anxiety, the conflict is the problem, not the symptom out there. And if you worked on the symptom why you’re leaving the person open to have another one just as vicious and maybe more so, and maybe more depleting than the one they had. So keep it accurate, okay.
[If I can solve a headache with aspiriin, let’s say, or some coffee or something like that, then that would mean, I would assume, I’m leaving myself open for a breakout of some other discomfort.] Not necessarily, but more than likely the headache will come back, but aspirin is an invasionary force and the body used up a certain amount of its mobilized and unreleased energy, chemical balance and neuromuscular tension to kick the aspirin out, so it might have got it a little more balanced, who knows? It’s all right. I like the coffee part.
[…the symptom is a sign of the adaptation?] It’s a sign that there is some sort of a problem. A symptom is an adaptation. Adaptation is to the problem. And I would rather work on the problem rather than the symptom. You know, symptoms you can chase all day long. You know, you can have an upset in your belly and you take out the appendix and that moves over and the gallblader is upset, you cut it out, then you have to take out fourteen inches of small intenstine, then you have to take part of the colon out, you know, it’s possible, but we’re not in that business. Okay? Okay, another question, comment? Yes ma’am.
[If X knows how to do all these things without, uh, uh… then why do people have to learn how to operate machines, how to walk, how to do these various things?] You don’t know learn how to walk. You learn how to see what you wanted to do on your feet. Machinery you have to learn what button does what. And what light indicates what’s going on. Did you ever fly an airplane? [No.] Okay. They got a lot of little widgets out here in this thing, twelve hundred or some other, and each one of them is telling you something. Now the only way you can report to X for it to control the airplane is to know what that light means here and what this button does over there and what this stick does when you push it this way and what it does when you pull it this way, and that way, and what it does when you push this foot or that foot. So we learn to report, if I may be so bold as to say so. And that takes a lot of doing. Now if I come up to some device I’ve never seen before, X doesn’t know how to operate the machine. If I’ll tell him what all that machine does, it knows how to operate all the controls. So I have to tell what’s going on. So there’s a decided place for education, in fact that’s what we’re talking about today, we’re trying to educate somewhat so we don’t mis-, send in misinformation rather than correct information. I see every day somebody around that’s sending misinformation into X, X does the appropriate thing for the misinformation, which is violence to the body or to the business that the person'’ trying to operate or to their affairs in general, or their personal relationships and what have you.
For instance, I learned about dogs. I learned that they don’t eat (?) very well. So I will try to teach the dog about the (?). I see the dog, certain behavior, I say (?) but I wouldn’t run and get him (mostly unintelligible.) … Because I have quite a bit of education on the nutrition of animals. And he wouldn’t profit by a bunch of hay.
[… people have to learn how to catch the ball and that sort of thing.] Uh, ma’am, I been playing golf for about forty years, and taken lots of lessons from pros, okay. You learn where you can know where you want that ball. And what your club does. Now your club is a machine, it’s an instrument. Have to learn how to use it, what it does. You have to report to X what it does. But I also know a thousand people who are trying to conscious… to educatedly play gold. Okay? They’re first place duffers. Because they never allow X to hit the ball, they’re trying to figure out how to do it. And they don’t become pros. They’ll never become a pro at it. A person who can sit and look at that ball—now he knows the club, he has to know the club, he has to know what it does, that’s a machine, know what it does when you hold it this way or that way or the other way, you have to try it out. And he can report accurately then he never has to think of the club or anything else.
Now I did not knock an education, but I’m trying to say that we sometimes defeat our own purpose in that we’re trying to figure out how instead of what. And you’ll never get enough education in knowing what. And you’ll probably can frustrate yourself very greatly by trying to direct your education at knowing HOW to do a lot of things that only X can do anyway. I know people who know, who try to control their bowels. And their elimination of urine and every other thing and their intake of food and they study all of this, instead of letting X take care of that. And the minute you try to figure out how to do it you just screw it up real royally. And if you let X take care of it it handles it very, very nicely. Yes ma’am?
[Do X does ever speak or act without being asked to, or are you unconsciously reporting. I’ll find that sometimes I’ll be in a situation and I’ll start giggling at something and it’s really not funny but I’ll laugh and I’ll feel better.] … see the joke, X sees a lot of things that’s funny … probably sees a lot of it is very funny. X basically is very polite, it doesn’t interfere. You don’t have to ask it, you merely report what, and it takes care of the how very nicely. You can check that, and the more you can report accurately the what, the better it takes care of the how, okay. And it can’t report accurately the what as long as these things here are all in there pitching every minute. So it’s easy to throw those out, okay?
All right, another question, comment? [… same thing in singing, you report what?] You hit me in a place that I don’t even know the first thing about reporting but I’m sure you know how you want it to sound, is that right? Huh? [Maybe that’s part of the difficulty] Maybe you don’t know how you want it to sound. [Yeah, and you might not have the sound in there that you’re reaching for.] Well, uh, I wouldn’t in my head, because I can’t play the piano or anything else, so I don’t know. I know a certain sound I want to come out in certain things I do and that sound will get there if I can keep on knowing the sound I want. But I don’t know anything about singing and music because when they passed out all the information about that I was thrown out. Could not get in.
[Beethoven was deaf and was able to write a lot of compositions that were very good. He imagined these sounds, it must have been very clear inside his…] Must have been. But I don’t think he was born deaf. [Oh, no.] He had heard it, he’d heard something. If you heard something and now you’re totally deaf, now you know what it sounds like. [You mentioned that the lady back there that took the golf ball, you can make that golf ball go where you want it to go. Well I found out, I stumbled on this, uh, I was playing pool, just playing pool, and I wanted the ball to go in that pocket, and I know very little about English and technical things of that nature, bouncing it off, but what I did I took my time and I relaxed and I saw the ball go in the pocket before. And I took my time, I didn’t seem to get much thought to it, I thought it’s going to go in there all right, there’s no doubt about that, but what I visioned actualled happened. So I tried it again and again, and I found out if I ever hurried up my chances weren’t nearly as good.] … You didn’t report as accurately, when you report accurately why you went in the pocket. [Right.] Right, that’s correct. If you don’t, it goes rambling off somewhere else. [And I wasn’t using a good technique or good pool or ] Oh no, you didn’t listen to the pro then. [No.] But you did report where you wanted that ball, you could see it go there, and it went there, didn’t it? [Yeah.] Probably … Okay, next question, comment. You’re doing fine, I like the round table discussion. I don’t like to talk all the time.
[I’d like to go back to what you said right at the beginning of this, that relationships are not important.] That’s RIGHT! If you can discover that you can have a lot of fun with people then. Husbands, wives, children, everything. [But if they’re not important, if relationships weren’t important, then why are there so many of us living in this world?] Well, they’re not important, they’re very interesting, very delightful, very fun. But if you make it important all the fun goes out of it, and all the joy goes out of it, it becomes very tedious, doesn'’ it? [Would you call it responsibility?] I don’t know what you call it. Different people call it different things. But the point is, that, uh, it is very interesting to have a companion, but if you make it important—and what they do, and what they say and the way they think and do they love you and all of this… you see, you’ll NEVER know whether anybody loves you or not. You’ll only know how they treat you. And that’s all I’m interested in, that they treat me nice they can have me. (laughter) No sweat, no bother. Don’t have to go through this … about do you love me and all this stuff, I … (noise) never will know. Right? It’s not important. So, [Even if they tell you you still don’t know it.] Oh, I, you know, people rattle words and you don’t know what their motives are. The fact of business I doubt if they even know what the word love means anyway. It'’ the appropriate word to say under certain circumstances, it'’ customary to use it, I love you and all that good stuff. Well maybe I do. But what'’l I do tomorrow? I don'’ know and you don'’ know. Hmm? And what difference does it make. Still, if somebody walks up and tells you they love you, do you know what they mean by that? [They like you.] Maybe. Maybe they’re telling you because you’ll do things better for them, you’ll treat them right if you say that. Maybe it’s a motivator.
You know, I tell people, somebody comes up and says I love you, they haven’t finished the sentence. 514 I don’t know. You want to hear the rest of the sentence? I love you, therefore you are now obligated to me to do exactly as I want you to when I want you to, or else I will be hurt and then I will be hurt and I will cry and it’s all your fault, so there. (laughter)
No, you don’t know what they mean when people say I love you, I think it means they have a nice feeling. You see, when somebody tells me something that they’re feeling about me, they’re not telling me a thing in the world about me, they’re telling how they feel when I’m the object of their thoughts. They’re only telling me something about themselves. 519
[Well, but if a child comes up and tells you I love you] Pretty and I love it. […] I don’t know whether they do or not and I don’t know whether they know what they’re talking about or not. [Sure they do.] Maybe they do, I don’t know. Next week they’re liable to say I hate you! [They do that, when they do that, that’s to get their way.] Well, that’s probably right. And the other one is probably a better way to get their way. I think the first one is the smart way, when they tell you I love you, because it’s easier to get your way then it is the other one. Helps a lot. I’ve tried it. For years. (laughter) Lots of places. Works pretty good. Not universal, nothing is. But it’s pretty worthwhile.
[Do you have any ideas for working with getting along with people in such a way that they don’t feel that they own you and you’re not unduly influencing them? Being harmless in terms of knocking other people off stride or letting them knock you off stride.]
Well, I just give everybody as much freedom as I know how to let them have. Most of them would like to control me, but, you know. I act like I’m controlled, then nothing happens. As long as it don’t interfere. I’ll let anybody think they control me. As long as it don’t interfere with what I’m doing. But, when you give somebody total control over you or you try to get control over others that’s not love, that’s possession and all that kind of stuff. But I still say that it’s not important, but the most interesting thing in the world is human relationships. Because it’s interesting doesn’t make it important. 538 See, when you make anything important you become anxious. And you put two anxious people in the house and there’s going to be fire flying before long. And if there’s nobody anxious in the house it’s a joy as to how we can get along. Right? You see, it goes against our grain because we’ve been conditioned that THIS IS IMPORTANT. And so as long as there’s… we can keep a lot of people thinking things are important we’ve got a lot of work to do.
ON HEALTH CD 547 If I want to build me a big practice why I get more and more things important, I’ve got more and more anxious people, more and more anxious people brings me more and more business.
[Our kids… fighting, sometimes hitting each other… they each seem to think they have a right to the TV, that they have a right to the bathroom…] They obviously do, everybody knows that (laughter). [Yes. Well what can Robert and I do about it?] Well, put boxing gloves on them. And say may the fittest survive. [And then leave.] By all means. (laughter) [I was thinking there was some way we could teach them to be considerate of each other.] Well, possibly they could be taught but you and Robert would be the last people to try to teach them. Uh, I would ask them once in a while what they felt was to their advantage. To have peace and harmony around the house or to have a constant haggle. I would not tell them what’s the appropriate thing to do, but I would sometime every now and then, try to … what is to your advantage. Kids come to me and tell me their parents told them they’re obligated to honor their parents and etc. and I tell the kids no, you don’t owe them nothing. But, do they keep you up, do they buy you food, do they furnish the house, do they give you a little spending money? “Yeah.” Well, what is to your advantage, treat them nice or to bitch at them? Kids say, “well… treat them nice…” I said you don’t have to, you can treat them any way you want to. But what’s to your advantage? And the kids begins to treat everybody pretty nice because he figures it’s to his advantage. So why not talk to them about what’s to their advantage instead of what’s “right and good and proper” and all that. See, probably the reason we’re all conditioned as well as we are is that we have been taught for centuries, been handed down from generation to generation, we’re always trying to teach kids to be good instead of conscious. And if they were conscious they would harm nobody and we’d probably … any idea we come up with “good” anyway. Because we’re trying to teach people to be good, they don’t want to do that. I don’t want to do what I ought to do and should do. Do you eat what you should eat and all that good stuff? Or do… [That’s where I’m not being good.] Good, now you’re getting… I don’t know what’s good so we don’t have to bother with it, okay? All right.
[This business of reporting… for healing, you mentioned a while ago, is that, is there a danger … (unintelligible)] I supposed there’s a danger in anything. I’m not trying to contol anybody or anything. But I’m sure that it could be used that way. I’m sure anything could be used to try to control. I’ve seen love try to used to control people, and the last thing under the sun.
So I’m sure you could use anything in an attempt to control. I just have no desire to control anybody because I got all I can do to look after me. If I control them I’m now responsible for them and God knows I don’t want to do that. I got all I can hack now without taking on any more. Okay?