{"id":385,"date":"2023-07-10T15:33:07","date_gmt":"2023-07-10T19:33:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=385"},"modified":"2023-07-10T15:45:11","modified_gmt":"2023-07-10T19:45:11","slug":"suggestion-be-watchful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=385","title":{"rendered":"Suggestion\u2014be watchful<\/strong>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A formula for making a suggestion<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.\u00a0Create desire by identifying need.<\/strong>
2.\u00a0Set up a goal with the promise of being \u201cbetter off\u201d.<\/strong>
3.\u00a0Show the method and how \u201ceasy it is\u201d.<\/strong>
4.\u00a0Act upon it and imply a guarantee.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  Place of langrage in the teaching<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Who\u2019s in Charge of my Inner State?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is only a suggestion when it promises you pleasure or comfort or when it threatens pain or discomfort of some sort.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Definition of Suggestion is an idea that creates expectation that something ideal or not ideal will happen in the future.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This idea was used on me yesterday.  A man came to the door.  I didn\u2019t open the storm door, but asked him what he wanted.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He said his group was in the area checking people\u2019s roof safety after the flood of nine months ago.  He said they would check my roof absolutely free, take pictures which they could show me pictures of any damage and give a cost estimate for repairs.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I told him our insurance agency had already done that.  He had some stupid answer for that.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I asked him the name of his company and he said Alex roofing.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I said I wasn\u2019t interested and he said \u201cWhy\u201d?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

That was a red flag for me. Any \u201cwhy\u201d he asked would be the scorpion of a thousand tails. He says \u201cwhy\u201d, I give and explanation and he says it\u2019s not correct, and the endless loop goes on until I, in exasperation, give in \u2013 what a waste of time.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But he kept at me and I finally said \u201cI\u2019m blind\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He said, you\u2019re not blind, you\u2019re looking straight at me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point I\u2019d had enough and said, \u201cForget it!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He had something to say to that too.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I replied, \u201cWhich word in forget it did you not understand\u201d and he went away.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So he followed the formula<\/strong>:

1.<\/strong> He created a need (the flood probably did something bad to my roof.<\/strong>
2.<\/strong> He set up a goal that after he finished, I would be safe and thereby \u201cbetter off\u201d.<\/strong>
3.<\/strong> He said how easy it was and it was a \u201cfree\u201d estimate.<\/strong>
4.<\/strong> He implied a guarantee that I would be prepared for the hurricane season coming up.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So Dr. Bob gave us this formula so we could recognize when it\u2019s being used on us. It\u2019s fun to recognize suggestion being used on us when we watch TV with the ads for big business. We can see it in the news with politics.  And religion promises us heaven for \u201cbeing good\u201d and hell for \u201cbeing bad, and they say they know what \u201cgood and bad\u201d is.  And finally the medical and pharmaceutical industries claim their diagnoses and pills will make us well.  It is just a bit of wisdom to not swallow and believe what anyone or anything tells us and to check it out for ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if we recognize this formula, we can also see when we are unconsciously using it on others.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve seen myself listening to others and giving suggestion warnings of thing I truly don\u2019t know a thing about but have read somewhere or heard somebody talk about having no personal experience. And even if I have, it has nothing to do with their present situation and I can\u2019t know all that\u2019s involved with it. What am I doing? I think I\u2019m being helpful, but I\u2019m only creating conflict, indecision and as I think about it \u2013 what if they do take my suggestion for a solution and it is totally inaccurate for their situation?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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