{"id":315,"date":"2020-11-12T13:36:11","date_gmt":"2020-11-12T18:36:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=315"},"modified":"2020-11-12T13:36:11","modified_gmt":"2020-11-12T18:36:11","slug":"about-attention-and-approval","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=315","title":{"rendered":"About Attention and Approval"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u00a0From Half Moon Bay<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Question: (So how much\nattention or approval do we need.  How\nlittle……)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How much attention and\napproval do you need?  Well, why don’t\nyou give yourself what you require?  You\nknow, I figure nobody knows how wonderful I am as much as I do.  I know people that disapprove of me just got poor\ntaste and I’m goin’ about my business.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you know how much you\nwould need to give yourself?  You see in\nthe ultimate end, it’s your own approval you desire, not mine.  I can come along and tell you how beautiful\nyou are; and how wonderful you are; and you’ll say to yourself \u201cHe was just\ndoin’ this to try to make me feel good\u201d or \u201cHe was makin’ fun of me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  So it’s your approval, your image of yourself\nthat counts.  So can you give yourself\nenough approval or do you want and expect the rest of us give it.  You’ll never believe the rest of us anyway,\nis that right?  But we’ve been taught\nthat we should always \u201cput ourselves down\u201d. \nBut if you put yourself down, who’s gonna \u2018put you up\u2019, is that\nright?  Or you wouldn’t believe ’em\nanyway, would you?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’ve been told how\nbeautiful you were ever since you was this high, is that right?  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(This high.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You’ve been told that all\nof your life, haven’t you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Well, about……….)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well most of your life, is\nthat right?  That you’re a beautiful\nlady.  Do you buy it or do you think\nyou’re a ……<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(I think they’re lying.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Right.  So the only approval and attention that\nreally matters is what you give yourself. \nNow let’s all get that straight. \nNow that don’t mean you’re conceited or anything of the sort.  The point is if you can’t approve of\nyourself, you won’t buy it if somebody else does.  I’ve watched you for a long time,  You give yourself the “put down”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Yeah.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yeah.  And you give yourself the put down, And so’s\nabout everybody else here.  Now we all\ngive ourselves a put down, is that right? \nThe only attention and approval in the ultimate end that matters is what\nyou give yourself, okay?  And that\ndoesn’t mean that you have to run and tell everybody how wonderful you are, but\njust so you know it, okay?  You don’t\nhave to tell anybody about it, just so you know it.  Then you got plenty of attention.  If you need a little more today, give\nyourself a little more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

[From Marsha\u2026 Once my daughter and I found a sweet little canary flying free \u2013 he obviously had escaped. \u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So we caught it, got a cage, food and the necessary accoutrements. My daughter being young would go to school and leave the curtains closed. I felt sad for the canary because as I understand it, we cover the cage at night so the bird will sleep; and then remove it during the day. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So after a time, I decided to take the canary with me. I told my mentor in music about the bird; and he said to take a lesson from the bird.\u00a0 \u201cWHAT, I thought?\u201d What could I possibly learn from a little canary bird.\u00a0 <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So one day I was doing an afternoon gig singing and playing keyboard with a full house and nobody was paying any attention to me. I felt like a failure,\u00a0 Of course, here comes the self \u201cput down: and I left dejected. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Upon arriving home I could see in my front window and there was the canary singing his little heart out at the top of his voice. I thought about that lesson I was challenged to learn and realized that this canary didn\u2019t need an audience. He was singing for just the joy of it. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so I\u2019ve taken his lesson with me for the past many years I\u2019ve been playing.\u00a0 And if people aren\u2019t listening, I send out the joy anyway \u2013 we can never measure the effect of what we radiate.] <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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