{"id":214,"date":"2017-08-30T21:30:32","date_gmt":"2017-08-31T01:30:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=214"},"modified":"2017-08-30T21:32:35","modified_gmt":"2017-08-31T01:32:35","slug":"trust-another-way-of-looking-at-the-concept","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marshasummers.com\/wordpress\/?p=214","title":{"rendered":"Trust — another way of looking at the concept"},"content":{"rendered":"

— from the Half Moon Bay workshop.<\/p>\n

[from Marsha\u2026..What is trust?\u00a0\u00a0 The dictionary says: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.<\/p>\n

This subject is looked at from a completely different view below.\u00a0\u00a0 We start out with a statement from the audience.]<\/p>\n

(I have a hard time with forgiveness \u2013)<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t forgive \u2018em. You don\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n

(There are people who have been really close with me and I felt that I trusted and they hurt me.)<\/p>\n

Mm-hmm.<\/p>\n

(I mean even when I hear you say those words that they felt justified \u2013 I was so hurt in the process, I just can\u2019t seem to do it.)<\/p>\n

Well, you don\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n

(Well, it seems like the whole basis of\u2026..)<\/p>\n

The whole basis is to see that he felt he was right, proper, and\/or justified no matter what he did to you. Now, the next thing out is \u2013 you say you trusted him.<\/p>\n

Now, trust means that you have already come to the conclusion that they\u2019re going to do what they ought to do.<\/p>\n

You said you knew what ought to be in the first place, and that they\u2019re gonna do that. You are predicting that you know the future, is that right?<\/p>\n

(Uh-huh.)<\/p>\n

\u2026\u2026otherwise you wouldn\u2019t trust anybody, right? Nor distrust. You wouldn\u2019t have either one. You see, the biggest part of the \u201churt\u201d is because you \u201ctrusted\u201d. And then what was \u201ctrust to you was betrayed\u201d \u2013 that\u2019s the big \u201churt\u201d, isn\u2019t it? You know, you can get over having your face slapped or somethin\u2019 like that; but being betrayed with the trust\u2026 Now, what grounds do we have for trustin\u2019 anybody? What grounds do you have?<\/p>\n

(Control?)<\/p>\n

No, you just don\u2019t have any except that you assume you know the future and they\u2019re gonna do so and so and so and so. And when they don\u2019t, you crash; and you saw your trust was an illusion, is that right?<\/p>\n

(Uh-huh.)<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s what upset you \u2013 that you\u2019ve been chasin\u2019 an illusion. And they told me that the struggle towards an illusion is the only disintegrating factor in man. That\u2019s right. You\u2019re strugglin\u2019 towards an illusion. You assume, number one, that you knew the future, hmm? And this person, therefore, was gonna do thus and so because you assumed. And sometime or other you found that they didn\u2019t do that; and you, therefore, demonstrated that you did not know the future, right? And you were, therefore, strugglin\u2019 after an illusion. When you saw the illusion, you crumbled up over it and you got what you called \u201churt.\u201d Hmm?<\/p>\n

(So why do you trust people?)<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know any reason to trust anybody \u2018cause I don\u2019t know the future and that\u2019s the only thing you can go on.<\/p>\n

Now, I will make certain assumptions. I\u2019ll assume that the person I sell something to; and they say they\u2019ll pay in 30 days, that they will. But that\u2019s only an assumption on my part, isn\u2019t it? So we do have to use those assumptions; but I wouldn\u2019t call that trust. Would you call it trust, John?<\/p>\n

(First of all I\u2019d assume they\u2019re probably not going to pay it.) (laughter)<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a start anyway, but there ain\u2019t no reason to trust it, is it?<\/p>\n

(No.)<\/p>\n

None whatsoever. Okay? Does that help you out a little bit? That what? You have no reason to trust; and if you do, you\u2019re struggling after an illusion; and what hurts is seeing that you had an illusion instead of a fact. That\u2019s where the \u201churt\u201d comes from, believe it or not.<\/p>\n

(I believe that. I know that I can\u2019t go do anything unless I can justify it. I mean, we\u2019re looking right at it.)<\/p>\n

BUT…those other people cannot justify it and do wrong anyway.<\/p>\n

The teaching idea says: Wisdom is the knowledge that whatever myself or anyone else has ever done, is doing, or ever will do, it is felt at the time of doing to be right, or proper, or justified.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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