Exercises - Blaming - What Can I Do?
[From Marsha since blaming is so instantaneous and rampant, I decided to compile the many ideas throughout the teachings that give us something to work with when we find ourselves hypnotized by it. Much of these ideas are from “Love” School Talk #1.]
- 1. We can "remember to mind our own business".
- 2. We can see that we're using "cause/effect", and change that into looking for the four forces--initiative, resistance, form and result".
- 3. We can realize that we don't know if “what is” is "bad" or "good" because we don't know the outcome of it 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years or 20 years from now.
Perhaps this exercise will help us to let it go. When we can “let it go” the mind can get quiet. When the mind is quiet what happens? Ah, that is the experiment. Sometimes we can be inspired to an action—an action which harms no one. Sometimes the situation however small or large is transformed-- X transforms the “what is” into something useful. It is also useful for us to just observe--observe the big picture, so to speak. Watch for the form and the result of being awake. This helps to develop faith—being able to make up the mind singly.
- 4. See that nothing and nobody is to blame. Everyone is doing the only thing they could at the moment of doing—including self. See “Agape”.
- 5. We can do the exercise in “Agape” from Tape #17 in “Basics” which suggests thinking of what the person we’re blaming is using as a justification for their behavior which can increase understanding.
The search engine at the bottom finds “Agape” mentioned in many sections.
- 6. Blaming is a bar against doing anything about anything.
In conclusion (Tape #45 in “Basics” on conclusions)
So we can see each moment is new and different. If we can see that person is always new and different, we cease to come to conclusions that everything will always be the same—same then, same now. We cease to conclude things. When we come to a conclusion, it is the ending of experiencing moment by moment--ending of really being awake or alive. You see, one is only awake when one is experiencing this moment.
This is what we have started with - it is for I, the awareness, to arise from among the conclusions of the ways of self-improvement and from the conclusion as to the purpose of living, and to be observing the self without condemning it or justifying it; possibly observing that when one is doing this, one has discovered an entirely new life - a life that is very rich, very varied and completely different every moment.